http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper- I have a nine year old son who is in 3rd grade. He is very smart! but he had a bad temper, he had very little patience. I do not know how to help him control his temper. He has excellent grades in school. GreatSchools en-us healthy11 Jennifersuem, it's always a good idea to try and read previous responses in a discussion, to see what other people have suggested, and to see what additional information has been ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=1#comment_461458 5100.461458 Thu, 02 Jul 2009 07:08:00 -0700 jennifersuem There is a good possibility he has Bipolar Disorder or Oppositional Defiance Disorder. He even might have ADD/ADHD! Talk to his Family Doctor and ask what could/should be done to ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=1#comment_461317 5100.461317 Thu, 02 Jul 2009 00:47:12 -0700 healthy11 Admittedly, one of the problems with allowing "Anonymous" posts is that it's difficult to track who is asking the question...In this case, from following the "chain" of responses, I believe ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=1#comment_458113 5100.458113 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:06:29 -0700 JoeBruzzese Thanks for jumping in. I'm always up for a good discussion. Indeed I have 2 of my own ages 8 and 10. My posts were directed toward the original posting ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=1#comment_457891 5100.457891 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 16:05:58 -0700 healthy11 JoeBruzzese, do you have any children of your own? Do any of them have diagnosed special education issues? I agree with many of the things you say, but not all. ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=1#comment_457821 5100.457821 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 15:24:14 -0700 JoeBruzzese Wonderful contributions! I'm in agreement that rewarding children does solve the motivation problem. A few points to add, connecting consequences with actions helps a child understand how the world works. ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=2#comment_457280 5100.457280 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 11:10:35 -0700 1seremen Do think of using reward system. It works for some children. The reward needs to be consistent and immediate. For example, reward for negative behavior by taking away TV time ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=2#comment_457034 5100.457034 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 09:22:39 -0700 JoeBruzzese Consider this, at 8 or 9 years of age a child has spent less than a decade on the earth. The reality he understands about the world is what has ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=2#comment_456847 5100.456847 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 07:49:56 -0700 healthy11 alvera, have you mentioned your son's behavior to his pediatrician? It sounds like you are trying your best to teach him, but if he's not listening to you, then it ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=2#comment_449011 5100.449011 Wed, 17 Jun 2009 07:36:16 -0700 alvera i am having the same problem with my son and he is 8 years old and i am to the point im not sure wat to do anymore ,,,,so i ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=2#comment_448989 5100.448989 Wed, 17 Jun 2009 06:37:00 -0700 healthy11 My own son has ADHD, and I've done a lot of research on the topic. All children with ADD/ADHD do not have bad tempers. Children with ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=3#comment_442980 5100.442980 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 13:28:41 -0700 kjdmom I was curious about the birth order thing because my son with the temper is also my middle child. My cousin wrote a whole book on birth order and how ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=3#comment_442924 5100.442924 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 12:19:28 -0700 Mommyof_3 I appreciate everyone's input and advice. THANK YOU!! http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=3#comment_442916 5100.442916 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 12:11:56 -0700 Mommyof_3 Not at all, but my dad had a bad temper. The doctor said, that he may have ADD, but that it is very low. He said that their are different ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=3#comment_442912 5100.442912 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 12:07:37 -0700 healthy11 Did your ex also exhibit problems controlling his temper? Certain conditions are hereditary, and have nothing to do with how smart a person is. People sometimes mistakenly think that bright ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=3#comment_442908 5100.442908 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 12:02:33 -0700 Mommyof_3 I tried two sessions of therapy. The doctor told me to reward him and not to concentraste on his behavior and I did. I have no complaints because he gets ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=4#comment_442899 5100.442899 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 11:51:37 -0700 Mommyof_3 yes http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=4#comment_442893 5100.442893 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 11:47:45 -0700 healthy11 Mommyof_3, when you say that your son's behavior scares you, it sounds like it might be worth mentioning his outbursts to your doctor. As children get older, and hormones come ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=4#comment_442885 5100.442885 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 11:36:23 -0700 kjdmom Thanks, I was at my wits end when a friend sent this to me and I used it to propel what needed to be done to start bringing peace to ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=4#comment_442875 5100.442875 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 11:25:56 -0700 MSMomm Great story, kjdmom! Thanks for sharing. http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=4#comment_442819 5100.442819 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 10:42:16 -0700 Mommyof_3 Thank you. I will try this. My son will get upset when things do not go his way or if he messed up on his paper work he will very ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=5#comment_442796 5100.442796 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 10:24:02 -0700 kjdmom My ten year-old is the same way, although he seems to be able to keep his cool outside of our household. He is a straight A student, perfect behavior at ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/442718/My-nine-year-old-son-has-a-bad-temper-?cpage=5#comment_442755 5100.442755 Mon, 08 Jun 2009 09:28:43 -0700