http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him The kids had gotten off the bus and words were exchanged and there was pushing back and forth by both kids. My son walked away and headed on the pathway home. The other kid who lives the opposite direction, ran behind my son calling him names and then kicking him. My son retaliated, the kid ended up w/a bloody nose. The boy's parents called police, wanted to press charges. I don't believe mine did anything wrong but they both now have to see the school's resource officer, which I am ok with, but how do I explain to my son why he is being punished for what he didnt start but defended himself for? GreatSchools en-us debrasuefitzge i agree with msowder,on this topic. http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=1#comment_293339 5100.293339 Tue, 25 Nov 2008 14:31:43 -0800 AdvocacyMom My opinion is not politically correct, but I'll share it anyway ... Tell your son what I told mine recently, in a similar situation:"It's better to find a way to ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=1#comment_287825 5100.287825 Sat, 15 Nov 2008 20:03:02 -0800 debrasuefitzge i agree with deborahhamilto,if a child tells a parent they are being bullied then the parent should go to the school and find out whats going on.when my daughter came ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=1#comment_286098 5100.286098 Wed, 12 Nov 2008 22:27:57 -0800 DeborahHamilto I feel that if anybody child come home and let their parents know that they are being bullied at school the parents should go to the school and talk with ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=1#comment_285558 5100.285558 Wed, 12 Nov 2008 07:43:23 -0800 bonniebon i have the same proble my 13 yr old got sup for adaybecause he told everyone that the kid was messing with him so when the kid hit he had ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=1#comment_285498 5100.285498 Wed, 12 Nov 2008 06:05:25 -0800 msowder15 I believe you should always try and teach your child ways to get out of this kind of situation but when it comes down to it I don't think anyone ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=2#comment_285480 5100.285480 Wed, 12 Nov 2008 05:20:22 -0800 DeborahHamilto Thank goodness the bully got his butt kick.his nose was the only thing that got broke,I should have been their and it should have been my child he would have ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=2#comment_285460 5100.285460 Wed, 12 Nov 2008 04:02:54 -0800 Cardinalfan Well, there is a good example of bullies getting what's coming to them. Sadly, nothing is done right until physical action is done. My niece went thru the same thing, ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=2#comment_285303 5100.285303 Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:13:49 -0800 tobbyandlui Your son did what he has to do, defend himself. There are some kids out there, that don't have any kind of respect for others, is not that I like ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=2#comment_281296 5100.281296 Wed, 05 Nov 2008 11:25:21 -0800 debrasuefitzge i agree with maggie93215,your son did nothing wrong he tryed to defend his self. http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=2#comment_280418 5100.280418 Mon, 03 Nov 2008 21:26:10 -0800 maggie93215 Talk with your son and remind him that he did the right thing, he tried to walk away but when push comes to shove all he did was defend himself. ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=3#comment_280181 5100.280181 Mon, 03 Nov 2008 13:48:40 -0800 bonniebon i know that feeling my son is only 10 and we are going through the same thing i hate the system here in jacksonville,fl they do not pushish the rights ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=3#comment_279864 5100.279864 Mon, 03 Nov 2008 05:43:38 -0800 DeborahHamilto Why is the school involved in this,they have no say so if this happen off the bus.this becomes the police job to get the info and write a report.then you ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=3#comment_277698 5100.277698 Wed, 29 Oct 2008 15:03:13 -0700 pistons58 When my son was in 2nd grade he was the victim of a 5th grade bully -- resulting in a broken collerbone. I went to the school and spoke to ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=3#comment_277655 5100.277655 Wed, 29 Oct 2008 13:52:09 -0700 DeborahHamilto You need to get some of the other kids that ride that bus and saw what really happen,talk with them and ask them will they be your son witness and ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=3#comment_277465 5100.277465 Wed, 29 Oct 2008 09:12:37 -0700 Cubanabred Thanks, it will help http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=4#comment_272099 5100.272099 Tue, 21 Oct 2008 05:07:01 -0700 debrasuefitzge that is hard to do your son did nothing wrong.this happened to my daughter once and she got in trouble for defending herself.i told her that the world and people ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/269581/My-13yr-old-son-is-being-penalized-for-defending-himself-after-walking-away-from-a-kid-teasing-him?cpage=4#comment_272050 5100.272050 Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:37:43 -0700