http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child Help! We are at our last straw! Our daughter will be 8 in December, she recently (yesterday) started 3rd grade she skipped 1st grade and went into 2nd grade. She excelled and loves school. The problem is when she comes home she is is very mouthy, disrespectful to us and refuses to do anything we ask her to do. We have tried many different approaches and nothing is working! We try to remain calm, etc... Anyone having any suggestions about this is most appreciated! Everyone including her teachers rave about her manners and her maturity. How and why can't we get respect from her at home? She slams the doors, stomps her foot and yells. I am about to tear out my hair and so is my husband. GreatSchools en-us ADDMAMA I have a 12 yr old with ADD and a 7yr old with no behavior disorders. My daughters ADD doctor loaned us a book and video (when she was around ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=1#comment_411894 5100.411894 Thu, 23 Apr 2009 21:15:33 -0700 debrasuefitzge i have a eight year old to and she sometimes mouths off,what i do is take things away from her that i know she loves ,like phone ,sterieo computer, and ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=1#comment_268379 5100.268379 Tue, 14 Oct 2008 13:55:22 -0700 tobbyandlui I think that if a child is not discipline since the beginning, it would be hard later on when your child grows up, so its better to start early than ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=1#comment_264119 5100.264119 Mon, 06 Oct 2008 08:29:21 -0700 ProfMom Her behavior is probably not new, but has gotten worse with her boost of confidence. She, I would imagine, has been a high maintenance or headstrong child for a ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=1#comment_264021 5100.264021 Sun, 05 Oct 2008 20:02:24 -0700 tobbyandlui My daughter is 7 years too, sometimes she tries to scream at me but inmediately I tell her that if she do that again she will be grounded, try to ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=1#comment_260215 5100.260215 Mon, 29 Sep 2008 14:10:18 -0700 Ethansmom I handle disrespect the best way I know how with my six year old son. When you take away something they enjoy, it hurts them, and makes them stop and ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=2#comment_259055 5100.259055 Sat, 27 Sep 2008 06:35:21 -0700 michelleg30 hey this is michelle from cali and i went and had my daughter checked for adhd . have you done that gone to your doctors ? and we have the ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=2#comment_256958 5100.256958 Tue, 23 Sep 2008 18:21:44 -0700 venicefreebird Missyz's answer I think is good. You also might consider that she is getting a jolt of hormones at this time in her life. And being an only child she ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=2#comment_252617 5100.252617 Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:42:03 -0700 summerblue Question.......how do you discipline her for being disrespectful?If she refuses to do anything you ask - there are still ways to discipline.EVERYTHING in her room is not a right, it's ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=2#comment_252566 5100.252566 Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:23:14 -0700 CiarasMom I was just wondering if you have tried to ask her what's wrong? It seems to me that she is trying to get your attention anyway she can. I'm not ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=2#comment_252542 5100.252542 Tue, 16 Sep 2008 11:56:43 -0700 GoBuffs I know that punishments sometimes seem meaningless. So, Here is what I have done.. Level 1 (first offense) is 30 minutes on a wall, usually hall way, since nothing exciting ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=3#comment_247895 5100.247895 Tue, 09 Sep 2008 08:18:09 -0700 carvell04 My niece sounds exactly like your daughter. She is extremely intelegent. She is currently 16. She is in all AP classes and her lowest grade in school so far has ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=3#comment_247894 5100.247894 Tue, 09 Sep 2008 08:16:50 -0700 princessmom Hi GoBuffs!Wow! It does sound like our daugter are twin!! Other than taken away a favorite toy or tv priviledges, and possibly removing the door what else is left for ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=3#comment_247671 5100.247671 Mon, 08 Sep 2008 18:49:51 -0700 GoBuffs I think our daughters must be twin spirits. My daughter is great and school and behaves extremely well, until the second she is with me or my husband. So we ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=3#comment_247584 5100.247584 Mon, 08 Sep 2008 16:53:59 -0700 Marimom Thanks so much. Glad to be of help. Just from experience with my own girls you know. Girls are way more creative on behaviors than boys....lol http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=3#comment_246855 5100.246855 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 16:05:24 -0700 princessmom Hi Marimom,I clicked on the gold stars and gave you 5 stars for your advice. http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=4#comment_246844 5100.246844 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 15:49:44 -0700 Marimom Hi princessmom...........please rate my article if you liked it. Thanks. http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=4#comment_246842 5100.246842 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 15:38:14 -0700 princessmom Hi Marimom!Thanks you so much for replying, after reading your posting I feel so much better! We will start sending her to her room and let you know the outcome.I ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=4#comment_246827 5100.246827 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 14:57:03 -0700 Marimom Hi again, I read some of the articles after I submitted my two cents. I want to tell everybody here that time out is a preschool thing for a little ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=4#comment_246818 5100.246818 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 14:36:39 -0700 Marimom 3rd grade is typical for the children to start this kind of behavior. It only takes one student at school to misbehave and the others take up on the competition. ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=4#comment_246809 5100.246809 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 14:23:33 -0700 princessmom Hi Missyz!Our daughter seems to act out anytime, period. Everything is a fight to get her to do, cleaning the cat litterboxs, feeding them, doing her homework, anything! She is ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=5#comment_246803 5100.246803 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 14:08:50 -0700 missyz Are you sure that there is not problems with your child at school? My son (now 18) was like that every year, during school. (Beginning of every year) He was ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=5#comment_246782 5100.246782 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 13:33:18 -0700 princessmom Hi Smeshede,I would like to ask you how long you keep items once you take them away from your kids? Maybe we are iving them back too soon. http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=5#comment_246721 5100.246721 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 11:43:03 -0700 princessmom Hi Smeshede!We have taken many of her items away from her like her Barbie dolls, Hannah Montana Cd's and it works for awhile then she starts being mouthy again. We ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=5#comment_246720 5100.246720 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 11:42:00 -0700 smeschede Time out and loss of privleges works best in my house. If she looses TV time because she is disrespectful it may have an impact on her. You need to ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=5#comment_246699 5100.246699 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 11:07:24 -0700 princessmom Hi Laura!Thanks for your advice! I did not act this way until I was 13-14. I will try using a chair and having a place for her to sit and ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=6#comment_245733 5100.245733 Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:54:41 -0700 laura1967 I do not have a girl, but i know plenty who do--she is going through, what i call a "BOSSY" phase....which, is how -she finds her true self- BUT AT ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=6#comment_245706 5100.245706 Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:17:56 -0700 princessmom Hi Hockeymum!Thanks for your reply! I need to let you and everyone know we do not yell or scream at our daughter so that is not the problem here, it ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=6#comment_245701 5100.245701 Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:12:42 -0700 maggie93215 Have you ever thought about doing things the old fashion way, get some nice hot chilie and stuff it in there. I have a 9yr old and a 4yr old ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=6#comment_245700 5100.245700 Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:11:38 -0700 princessmom Hi Laura1967!Thanks for your reply! We have never done the time out thing. I know we should have but it was not necessary until now. Our daughter will be 8 ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=6#comment_245699 5100.245699 Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:08:13 -0700 hockeymum 1. Yelling and Screaming don't work. If you want your child to act calm and respectful you need to act calm and respectful even when discipling.2. Check out Kids are ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=7#comment_245645 5100.245645 Fri, 05 Sep 2008 09:21:50 -0700 laura1967 Does she respond to "TIME-OUT"??? put her in a chair, in a corner, and make her stay.... Tell, her it is NOT ALLOWED AT HOME!!! ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/245324/how-to-discipline-a7-year-old-child?cpage=7#comment_245359 5100.245359 Thu, 04 Sep 2008 20:11:25 -0700