http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand I have a very intelligent six year old son, ready to move onto 1st grade in September. I am concerned about his recurrent problem of "tuning out" when he is given instructions. He does this with me especially and his kindergarten teacher also commented on it a number of times. He is a little shy at times, very sweet, but also likes to be silly alot. I don't know if this tuning out is due to my reactions due to his not listening or not respecting the rules. I have a short fuse at times and didn't grow up in the healthiest of enviornments. My husband and I have had issues and unfortunately, both of our children have witnessed our sometimes out of control disagreements. Does anyone have any suggestions or feedback. GreatSchools en-us michellea It is concerning that your oldest also has difficulty in the same areas. ADHD is hereditary. In my family my sister has it, my Mother in law and many cousins ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=1#comment_239698 5100.239698 Wed, 27 Aug 2008 14:01:37 -0700 mandilee well i really had a problem with things growing up my mom first thing wanted to say wow this child does not react to things like i as a 25 ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=1#comment_239660 5100.239660 Wed, 27 Aug 2008 13:15:29 -0700 healthy11 Haucoin, has your older son ever been evaluated by a professional? It's one thing to be uncertain about a kindergartener or 1st grader's maturity, but an older child who consistently ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=1#comment_239383 5100.239383 Wed, 27 Aug 2008 08:41:31 -0700 HAUCOIN I FEEL LIKE YOU ARE WRITING ABOUT MY FAMILY. MY 7 YEAR OLD IS ADHD AND MY 13 YEAR OLD DOES EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT WITH YOUR SON. ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=1#comment_239361 5100.239361 Wed, 27 Aug 2008 08:17:24 -0700 kenyod00 Wow, I'm so interested in checking out their website. I feel like there are possible answers now and of course possible solutions. Thank you so much for sharing your very ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=1#comment_238346 5100.238346 Tue, 26 Aug 2008 07:10:58 -0700 KristinaHall Hi,I encountered similar problems with my son. He used to suffer at school, and teachers commented on his inability to pay attention although he did enough to get by. He ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=2#comment_234985 5100.234985 Wed, 20 Aug 2008 13:13:37 -0700 Meehsuee I find that kids today are just like how we were (if we wish to be honest). Many of us did them same, this could mean your child is bored ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=2#comment_231670 5100.231670 Fri, 15 Aug 2008 08:43:55 -0700 kenyod00 I think it may be a way for him to cope. I think my husband and I are so trying to control everything all of the time, that we are ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=2#comment_231662 5100.231662 Fri, 15 Aug 2008 08:28:25 -0700 jarredmom Is this a coping skill for him? Does he tune out to avoid the pressures at school like he might at home? Is he thinking of Rocket ships and things ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=2#comment_230701 5100.230701 Wed, 13 Aug 2008 21:09:00 -0700 trejovan oh nuts! i only saw half of your blog! is your son in any type of extracurricular activity? Also, I went through the same thing growing up and understand a ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=2#comment_229293 5100.229293 Tue, 12 Aug 2008 00:51:04 -0700 trejovan My son did the same thing! i learned that staring a reward program with him worked well. for every task he would remember or book he read would have a ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=3#comment_229292 5100.229292 Tue, 12 Aug 2008 00:36:03 -0700 everydayangels My son of 11 yrs. has also been diagnosed with ADHD. I resisted the medication initially, eventually gave it a try and quit (actually several, from adderall to strattera) due ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=3#comment_221421 5100.221421 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 20:25:11 -0700 michellea Again, I would keep an eye out for how much this is happening, the circumstances and the impact on family, school and social life. If it begins to have an ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=3#comment_221030 5100.221030 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 12:29:01 -0700 kenyod00 He isn't rude what-so-ever when he doesn't respond. He either is onto doing something else other than what he is told, or being silly and not interested. http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=3#comment_220919 5100.220919 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 10:41:05 -0700 michellea You are wise to begin questioning whether or not there is some issue that is blocking your child's ability to understand directions.First and foremost, most kids (if not all) want ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=3#comment_220770 5100.220770 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 07:42:49 -0700 tabitha8122 I wouldn't be so quick to begin thinking about medical problems. ADHD is overdiagnosed. If your son has it, you'll know. You won't need a doctor to tell you. I ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=4#comment_220754 5100.220754 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 07:02:10 -0700 tabitha8122 I've come to find out that stress in a child's life does really affect their behavior. The best remedy for this is a loving environment and positive reinforcement. The damage ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=4#comment_220742 5100.220742 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 06:48:33 -0700 healthy11 It's very difficult to know what to advise, given your brief description. When you say "tuning out" do you mean just quietly ignoring what people tell him to do (what ... http://community.greatschools.net/q-and-a/220725/Does-my-son-need-help-with-his-problem-focusing-on-the-task-at-hand?cpage=4#comment_220737 5100.220737 Tue, 29 Jul 2008 06:41:06 -0700