http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help-- <p>I was always a good student in high school, I kind of just floated through never really having to study and getting along just fine. Now that I am in college, I'm suffering terribly. I put a lot of responsibilities on my plate&nbsp;for my first year in college: Big 12&nbsp;cheerleader, living in the dorms, full time student, and &nbsp;working everyday. I&nbsp;was on probation the first semester and didn't do a whole lot better the second semester. I have recently (like a week ago) been diagnosed with ADD and have started on vyvanse but finals ended two days after starting on the medicine so I am still left doubtful and extremely stressed. Is there any hope of bouncing back for being that low in gpa (1.07 first semester) and not hurting my financial aid? I have always been the one in the family that succeeds and the &quot;star&quot; of the bunch, but that puts an enormous amount of pressure on me. I have the pressure of knowing both of my brothers did terrible their first few years and college and suffered incredibly. I don't want to be that for my parents. I want them to know that they are good parents and have good, successful children. I just don't know what to do and I can't exactly talk freely with my parents about my failures because I am such a perfectionist with myself and expect the best out of me in knowing that everyone is expecting the best out of me as well...any advice would be EXTREMELY beneficial!!</p> <p>THANK YOU :)</p> GreatSchools en-us healthy11 Genuine, I am "genuinely" thrilled to hear that this year is already looking up for you! I hope you'll also update everyone in the College/Young Adults Group at www.millermom.proboards107.com ~ ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=1#comment_606146 4100.606146 Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:27:20 -0700 Genuine UPDATE-------Everything is FINALLY looking up. I have registered with our Disabilities program and am receiving a multitude of accommodations. My medicine has helped TREMENDOUSLY in class, it's amazing to see ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=1#comment_605975 4100.605975 Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:49:40 -0700 lbriscoe In response to your question regarding how to study, note cards always helped me. I have ADD as well which was not diagnosed until well after I finished college, so ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=1#comment_505599 4100.505599 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 12:29:03 -0700 healthy11 tbrannum, welcome! If you look at the top of the post, next to the person's picture/screen name, is the date that the post was made. In this case, genuine wrote ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=1#comment_505225 4100.505225 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 11:26:57 -0700 tbrannum I just join, so I am not sure how long ago you posted your request. I happen to work at a 2 yr college and have seen your situation happen ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=1#comment_505008 4100.505008 Mon, 13 Jul 2009 10:47:57 -0700 mbh1998 Take lots of notes in class, and then memorize them when you get home...that always helps me. http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=2#comment_440867 4100.440867 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:48:35 -0700 healthy11 I am GENUINELY thrilled to hear you've gotten better news, gradewise, than first expected, and that you have a plan which should help you continue to improve. Having your mom's ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=2#comment_424413 4100.424413 Tue, 12 May 2009 16:11:01 -0700 1seremen A good news! I think with this experience, you're likely to be a better person, a good student, and a great citizen.I am very happy for you and your mother. http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=2#comment_424054 4100.424054 Tue, 12 May 2009 10:21:27 -0700 Genuine UPDATE UPDATE UPDATE!!Okay, so I did not do as well as I would have liked at the end of this semester. But you all will be happy to know that ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=2#comment_423908 4100.423908 Tue, 12 May 2009 08:18:11 -0700 1seremen I agree with TeacherParent and I am happy your mother plays her role very well.Most behaviors are learned. Yes, learning something takes time! Most great things do not come easily ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=2#comment_423128 4100.423128 Mon, 11 May 2009 10:08:20 -0700 MagnetMom Genuine,Check back with us from time to time and let us know how you're doing. Glad to hear that everything is working out, and that mom is understanding! http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=3#comment_423070 4100.423070 Mon, 11 May 2009 09:22:39 -0700 Genuine UPDATEI recently talked to my mom about my classes this semester, she was extremely understanding. She wants me to go ahead with seeking to receive help in our disabilities program ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=3#comment_423057 4100.423057 Mon, 11 May 2009 09:11:21 -0700 Genuine 1seremen, thank you for the advice. When it comes to studying I just don't know where too start. I then become frustrated and just give up. Do you have any ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=3#comment_422968 4100.422968 Mon, 11 May 2009 07:54:13 -0700 TeacherParent Your school record this year may need to be made clear to your parents if your financial aid or return to school requires a higher GPA than yours currently is. ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=3#comment_422960 4100.422960 Mon, 11 May 2009 07:51:11 -0700 1seremen It is a good thing that you are being treated for your illness. I believe everyone is smart, but good grades are mostly for people who put in more hours ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=3#comment_422369 4100.422369 Sat, 09 May 2009 17:50:00 -0700 healthy11 Hi. I just came across your posting, and realize you might get even more response if you copy/paste it into a couple of groups where more parents of older students ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=4#comment_421685 4100.421685 Fri, 08 May 2009 07:47:01 -0700 Genuine Thank you so much for the help. A little update...I have not gone forward with cheering next year, it's about that time to be done anyways. I will take you ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=4#comment_421661 4100.421661 Fri, 08 May 2009 06:59:56 -0700 MagnetMom You have set a tall order for yourself to balance. If you're concerned about your parents' reaction, you really need to talk to someone with the financial aid office, and ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=4#comment_421499 4100.421499 Thu, 07 May 2009 20:28:58 -0700 the5mays I recommend you drop the non-essentials, focus on your priorities. Sorry but that means cheerleading goes. Find out how much time you can scale back on your job hours and ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/894/Failing-at-college-and-DESPERATELY-needing-help--?cpage=4#comment_421330 4100.421330 Thu, 07 May 2009 15:38:15 -0700