http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school- <p>I have been struggling to get my daughter through third grade all year. Toward the beggining of the year her teacher confronted me out in front of the school in my car where I was waiting to pick up my daughter. She told me, in front of my daughter, that she felt the my daughter had problems and should abviously be put on some kind of medication and that she thought that she had a tracking problem with her eyes and should be taken to an eye specialist to be treated. I called the principal and the school counselor the next day at set an appointment to meet with them regaurding the things that the teacher had brought up. At the meeting I asked them that if they beleived that she had some sort of learning disability could we please begin the evaluation process to find out what her problems actually were and to address them accordingly. I was told that the teacher was only acting with the best of intentions and heart and that since my daughter was not failing she did not qualify for any evaluations or modifications and that I should probably do as the teacher instructed and take to her to a doctore and have her put on medication and have her eyes tested by the specialist that the teacher recommended. Angry doesn't begin to describe my feelings at this point. I called and spoke with the school superintendant and he said that he would speak with the teacher and principle about moving her to the front of the room and see if that solves the problem. Now we are down the last 6 weeks of school and my daughter goes to school every day at 8 and stays after school for an hour mon. thru thurs. for extra math help, or so I have been told all year by her teacher and the notes that they have sent home, I have had not contact with any of the teachers since that time. Until the Easter party and I asked her teacher how she was doing at school and her teacher tells me that she thinks that my daughter is probably going to fail the year and have to repeat 3rd grade and I asked if anything had been done to help my daughter in all the time that she had been staying after shool all year wich I was told was supposed to be for extra math help, and her teacher then tells me &quot;Oh no, she has been staying after school to study for the TAKS test.&quot; So now it is the last six weeks, the TAKS scores are in and my daughter has passed the TAKS with average scores but yet I am told that she is failing third grade. WHAT?!!! Help! What am I supposed to do now. I have tried to get hold of the school counselor, principle and superintendant for a week and no one will return my calls as they are on another line, in a meeting for away from their desk. Help, I will take any advice I can get. Do I try and get her into a different shcool? Do I just let her ride out the rest of the year and hope that next year is better? Do I pull her out and keep her at home away from these crazy people or what?</p> GreatSchools en-us wresmom I know that this is to late for this school year...but maybe a little help for the next. I am an active parent at my sons school, and member of ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=1#comment_488666 4100.488666 Fri, 10 Jul 2009 12:56:01 -0700 JoeBruzzese Question, if your daughter's belief in her ability to succeed was based solely on one year in a classroom, would this be the experience you would choose for her?If not, ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=1#comment_460057 4100.460057 Wed, 01 Jul 2009 06:43:31 -0700 lynndov my son came home on a bus by his self when we called the school three times. he will be car pool. My husband and me were so upset when ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=1#comment_459771 4100.459771 Tue, 30 Jun 2009 20:46:37 -0700 iluvagaupt *I can't get past the teacher confronting you with your daughter present. (OUT OF ORDER)*I would look on the school/district web-site and start emailing (keeps a record of contact). *Do ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=1#comment_437498 4100.437498 Sun, 31 May 2009 06:00:49 -0700 MommaMojo Try Scottish Rite Hospital, your doctor will have to request it to be done. http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=1#comment_435225 4100.435225 Wed, 27 May 2009 20:22:59 -0700 dhfl143 Just because it should be my child's responsibility to do a chore, does not necessarily mean that he/she will do it, or in fact that he or she will do ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=2#comment_434682 4100.434682 Wed, 27 May 2009 11:09:34 -0700 neville_1971 Hi, a new member to this forum. And this was an interesting situation.I see this as the school's ownership and responsibility. They cannot avoid the situation but find the 'root ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=2#comment_434604 4100.434604 Wed, 27 May 2009 10:11:58 -0700 staceykins1979 The best advice I can give you is to get and outside evaluation done if you think there may be somethng going on with your daughter. The schools interventions leave ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=2#comment_434234 4100.434234 Wed, 27 May 2009 06:45:21 -0700 MommaMojo This sounds all too familiar. It seems the schools wants you to be concerned, to care, to be involved. THEN...when you do exactly that, they do a 180. I would ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=2#comment_429488 4100.429488 Tue, 19 May 2009 19:27:06 -0700 smawb39 Thank you everyone for your interest, help and advice. It has been inavluable to hear from all of you. I made the decision to move her to a new school ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=2#comment_427398 4100.427398 Sat, 16 May 2009 21:34:16 -0700 lolmom Hi Kristin,I liked what you did. My son went to a private school until second grade. He was doing great in the private school, but we moved. I am thinking ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=3#comment_427325 4100.427325 Sat, 16 May 2009 17:42:29 -0700 lolmom I agree with you. I have an 8 yr old son who went from a Catholic school to a public school in 2nd grade. The teacher waited until May to ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=3#comment_427323 4100.427323 Sat, 16 May 2009 17:36:19 -0700 lolmom I am amazed that the teacher spoke to you about your daughter's special needs right in front of her. I think that is terrible. I would have to express my ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=3#comment_427321 4100.427321 Sat, 16 May 2009 17:21:00 -0700 twinmom2k I had a similar issue with both my twins starting in 1st grade. The teachers began early in the year of 1st grade at the teachers conference they suggested that ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=3#comment_425442 4100.425442 Wed, 13 May 2009 20:15:03 -0700 TeacherParent If you have a choice of schools, you are very fortunate and of course any parent should have their child in the school that's right for them. If you can ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=3#comment_422976 4100.422976 Mon, 11 May 2009 08:05:55 -0700 carrie4 I would say that you need to find another school for your daughter! I went through a similar situation with my oldest son and you need to advocate for your ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=4#comment_422938 4100.422938 Mon, 11 May 2009 07:20:40 -0700 smawb39 She has not been evaluated for a learning disability and her old school at Haskell, when I requested that she be evaluated flat out refused my request and she was ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=4#comment_422904 4100.422904 Mon, 11 May 2009 06:39:22 -0700 dhfl143 A parent can request that the school evaluate a child at any time for a suspected learning disability. Make your request in writing and in your request for an evaluation ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=4#comment_421807 4100.421807 Fri, 08 May 2009 11:07:57 -0700 msldynyc This is true, they will not do evaluations on a child if they are not failing or had a dramatic drop in grades. Schools have their hands tied my law ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=4#comment_421786 4100.421786 Fri, 08 May 2009 10:34:09 -0700 dhfl143 If your child has a learning disability -- retention is usually not the best option. Take a look at the following articles:http://www.greatschools.net/cgi-bin/showarticle/1213http://www.wrightslaw.com/info/retain.index.htmI would like to invite you to join and ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=4#comment_421753 4100.421753 Fri, 08 May 2009 09:44:53 -0700 smawb39 Thank you so much for that information. I have spoken with so many parents online and in person about this and this is such a huge problem for so many ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=5#comment_421719 4100.421719 Fri, 08 May 2009 08:55:37 -0700 msldynyc I am so sorry to hear what your going through. I did go through something similar when my son was in Kindergarden. Frist what happened at your parent teacher confrences? ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=5#comment_420328 4100.420328 Wed, 06 May 2009 12:37:52 -0700 iheartmysailor What ever happened to "No Child Left Behind"????Sadly, its probably too late to transfer schools this year, but I would definitely make plans for it next year, or put her ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=5#comment_419929 4100.419929 Tue, 05 May 2009 20:32:19 -0700 vacekd1001 Here is some groups you may want o join. There are more people in these groups to help you navigate the school system.Learning and Attention Difficultieshttp://community.greatschools.net/groups/11554Education Laws Regs, Violations Help ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=5#comment_418871 4100.418871 Mon, 04 May 2009 13:15:40 -0700 vacekd1001 smawb39, Here is how to request that the district evaluate (not screen) your daughter. http://community.greatschools.net/advice/213/How-to-request-the-district-to-evaluate--not-screen--your-child----If the district denies your request ask for "Prior Written Notice" (PWN) http://community.greatschools.net/groups/77570/discussion/351660Also document all conversations ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=5#comment_418867 4100.418867 Mon, 04 May 2009 13:10:57 -0700 smawb39 That is exactly what I did. I asked that she be evaluated by the school and they said that since she wasn't failing she did not qualify for any kind ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=6#comment_417476 4100.417476 Fri, 01 May 2009 18:41:04 -0700 mom2ejcjmj I don't think any of those people should be telling you to put your child on medication. Why dont you go to the school psychologist and have him evaluate her ... http://community.greatschools.net/advice/889/Struggling-Sudent-or-wrong-school-?cpage=6#comment_416113 4100.416113 Wed, 29 Apr 2009 19:35:08 -0700