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Anonymous November 5, 2009

Has anyone ever encountered an ongoing situation at a school and the principal has not been aware of it?

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My child has had clothing items and shoes taken from his locker in the boys locker room and finding them later on in the week put in toilets with urine and feces on it; and he is not the only victim and this has happened more than 3 times to him in the past month...the teachers and security were investigating??? But the principal claims this is news to her inspite of several attempts to contact with this info...detailed messages were left...but no response???? It was recently bought to the Principals attention on Monday by another students parent (so the principal tells me) But I know that the parent that is spoken of has been there last week for same problem with a different set of clothes...and after speaking with the principal On MON. it happened to her child once again later that day only this time it was his coat in toilet (a new coat). I talked to the prinicipal this week and they claim this is news to them (for some reason I did not believe them?) Do I involve the police ????
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dsgarcia71
dsgarcia71 November 18, 2009
i'm sorry to hear about your situation. unfortunately bullying is still prevalent in school and the workplace. what you need to do now is go over the principal's head. no more nice. obviously, she needs read the riot act to her by the superindentent of schools and the school board. if you no get no action then you go to the state superindentent of schools. you should also go over the district/school rules and point out that they are being violated against your child. you may even be able to file a police report and go to the news media as a last resort as well. sad to say but nowadays you have to go the extremes to get something done. however, if you go through the proper channels you will come looking like a concerned parent instead of a hysterical one. children need to feel safe first before they will be able to learn. it's up to the parents to teach their kids at home on how to behave!
mel4389
mel4389 November 18, 2009
I feel your pain. Sorry I can't offer any advise. My son suffered something very similar in 4th grade, the principle talked to the other child and the parents. Mom comes in screaming "my child didn't do anything".
Unfortunately that is what happens in a lot of schools. Even though they have a no tolerance policy, many principles look the other way. I think you need to go above their heads.
mykidisfirst01
mykidisfirst01 November 8, 2009
They are aware of it, but looking the other way. often Principals, like many of us just want to punch the clock, pick up the check and go home. I recently offered to purchase small trash receptacles and a years worth of liners to install in the girls toilets so they will have a place to dispose of their sanitary products. Young women are shy about carrying it out to the large
can in the sink area and my daughter and her friends have requested this small convenience. Anyway the principal(female) said "great idea, never thought of it, but yes I will order some, thank you for your generous offer, but I think our budget can do at least that much. Well, two months later....no trash cans. Multiple fundraisers, whining teachers and they won't accept a GIFT that would enhance the student experience. Oh I've also volunteered to provide lunches for kids I witnessed going without because the parents couldn't pay and are too proud to apply for the free lunch program. Again, no thank you. So they get no $$$ when the fliers come home. I'm pulling my child out to homeschool again - we'll just have to find other ways for her to spend time with her friends.
healthy11
healthy11 November 6, 2009
Are there locks on the lockers? I'm sorry to hear that any situation like this is occurring in any school, but it reiterates the need for written documentation about important concerns that parents have. I was advised never to rely on spoken communication when it comes to school matters. There are too many excuses for "he said -she said" (or in your case, claiming nobody said anything before!)

If I were you, even though several days have passed, I would write a factual letter along the lines of
"Dear Principal,
My son, (name), a student in (teacher's X grade class) has been a victim of theft and vandalism on 3 different occasions this school year. (List details, like his gym shoes were removed from his locker during 4th period P.E. on whatever date, and found in a urinal on date; etc.) I notified the teacher (name) after each occasion, and was told that security was investigating. I know my son is not the only student who has been the victim of this type of crime in your school this year. When I spoke to you (in your office on date) you said this was all news to you. If school staff is not communicating with one another, it is difficult to understand how the problem will be resolved....What is being done to improve the safety of my child and his belongings? Sincerely, Mr. and Mrs. Name."

I would send your letter via certified mail, with receipt requested, to the prinicpal, and copy the school district Superintendent. The principal can't "hide" from the issue when it's documented in writing, and his boss (the Superintendent) is aware of the situation. It would also help police to have written documentation if a similar situation should happen again.
MommaElaine
MommaElaine November 5, 2009
Well Maybe contact the school board first and then the police I had experienced a similar situation and the school administrator did not want to be embarrassed so tried to keep the incident on the hush. Has an incident report been filled out? And had you been contacted when the incident occurred? I believe theft and vandalism is punishable by law and a direct violation of the student code of conduct. The administrator should be more proactive to resolve the problem. That is a shame and disgusting.

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