You know what he likes to do right? Try finding other kids that like to do the same things and invite them over to the house. My brother went through this when we were younger. He kept to himself but he found people who like what he liked. I know you don't want to force yourself on you child but once you get him going he'll be okay. As you continue to show your interest in what he does he'll continue to open up more.

have him try being silly, i know what your thinking, (i dont want him to be a class clown) thats not what im incouraging im just sugesting a few jokes or tricks. everybody likes to laugh. RIGHT!!!

Thanks, Ill try that!

Perhaps knowing what it is he is shy about may be a way of helping him overcome it. I used to be shy too when I was a child. I only became shy when I felt overwhelmed with attention or knew that attention was about to be directed toward me. Some children are shy because they are too busy thinking about the possible reactions of others long before do or say anything. It is kind of a self sabotage thing. They want friends but mess up their chance because they are afraid or nervous. Your child just needs a little help with confidence boosting.

Encourage your son to continue with sports and extracurricular activities. Hopefully he will have an easier time making friends when they have similar interests and designated time together to practice. You might suggest he invite one of the other kids over for some extra practice time.