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Forgot to tell you , I went the nice route first, I know they were definitley in the wrong but did not try to be confrontational, etc. Just concerned. Got pacified by teacher twice no change in fact worce then nice way to principal. Didn't work . I wasn't going to wait for strike 3. I meean really we shouldn't have to get tough with our own schools, but they need to feel your pain, they could fix the problem, but choose not to . GAme on.

Been there done that unfortunately a few times over the years. You have to either keep politely check in with teacher/ principal or Be prepare to carefully document everything create apaper trail. Be precise, be clear. You are in the right. Don't be intimidated if you are, think how your child is, bring another persons. Be calm, be consistant. They;d rather deal with a person who blow up for 5 minutes, and walks ou. They do not know how to handle someone who they know, actually knows they are in the right. They will never fully admit anything. They will try to pacify you.
Don't listen to the post about foghting their battles stuff. That's way off. That's rediculous, they can never win with a teacher, adult coach . It's not an even playing field even for many older teenagers.And I know first hand, and have sons and daughters off to med school and inthe business world who confidently can, mentally and physically, a Navy Seal, and I fought many of his battles. It doesn't mean every battle. You pick and choose . Knowing or seeing in action your parent fight for their rights, will in the long run give them confidence, they learn from your attitude and your actions, at least for now comfort. An eight year old cannot fight their own battles with a beligerant teacher, who obviously should not be teaching, there is never an excuse to be rude and disrespect a young student, ever. THe principal won't do anthing go to the superindents office. Again document everything do e-mails, whenever possible. Hold your own steady. They will resist and again they will try to make it sound like many mean teacher stories that are really nice caring unnder neath and just misunderstood, they would never blah , blah,blah, they will adjust and get used to, they will try to turn it on you or your child, don't fall for it. Let that teacher know you are keeping tabs, and want to work with her if she wants, but if she or principal blowing you off go to suoer attendants as high as you can go until you get some typ of resolve. HYou pay all their big salaries in taxes. They will eventually try to come up with something as you are starting to make them either annoyed or worried, especially if you keep consistant moving up, threaten media if they are total jerks.
You are dealing with a place that is their own police, jury and judge. Last resort pro bono attoney. Its a shame you have to either play a bunch of games with schools tap dancing etc. JUst asking them to be a good fair supportive encouraging teacher. If they can't there are a housand that want to lined up. Oh P.S> that reminds me, administrators are afraid and powerless against teacher unions. but if they aren.t lazy, they can fire a bad apple. Many wait until its too late for a student suffering froom an incident anyways to finally fire them. Good Luck , You have the power of doing the right thing on your side maybe other parents will join in but don't count on it, until it happens to their child. I got involved in early elementary becaus e I thought it was wrong of the teacher and found out my child was a target too. No one came to my aid except for the other two victimized families. This will happen throughout public schools and ours was considered better than average.

As long as your child is not put at harms way or there is not a safety issue, you will need to guide your child how to deal with loud and brash people. Remember this is just a short period in your childs life, I'm sure next year he/she will have better experience and appreciate the positive teacher. Remember you can't be fighting his/her battles. What are you going to do when he has a overly strick college professor? How about when he has a complete jerk of a boss? What mom is going to fight his/her battles! Your child is old enough to be taught on how to handle different type of people. Dealing with brass and loud people in authority, it can be challenging. I suggest when your child has a question, they wait until the teacher calms down and ask after the class is over or send the question via e-mail or write a it down on a piece of paper and leave it on her desk. If she ask your child why, then your child can inform the teach that he/she is kind of scare to ask his.her question during class. The teach should figure it out. If not, only 8 more months until school it out. Good Luck.

Hi Monty67,
Sorry I don't have an answer for you, but I can empathize with you. My daughter is in 5th and has a teacher that is about as negative as I've ever seen. She threatens, blows whistles, and huffs and puffs most of the day. Our school also has a no change policy, so what do you do? Well, I am going to bring it up to her directly at my parent teacher meeting the end of the month. If she is stressed out I will offer to volunteer more to help her out and recruit the other parents who are unhappy with her as well, kill them with kindness as they say? At this point it might be worth a try for you as well... Good Luck and remember it is all temporary, your child will get through this year...

Sadly sometimes we have to put up with the situation in the hopes that it will get better - this may be one of those times. In the meantime, ask the principal - in his experience, how will this work out? If he says 'it just will' - that's no answer. Insist pleasantly on his answering 'how will this work out?"

He may say "Mrs. Smith always starts off the year this way and then softens up by Nov. 1" - that would be a way this could work out. If he says "Mrs. Smith has a short memory and in a few days, she won't even remember that this happened" - that's another answer.

Good luck with this - teachers should never fly off the handle when a student asks a question and should never disrespect a student.

Yes, we have tried talking to the teacher. They were in the library and he asked if the website was correct. He is too scared to joke or even ask her any questions. Things are never explained in class, I just want him out.

You will ALWAYS get teachers like that. I have many teachers like that. See if he can get help from his friends or another teacher, but you haven't been very clear. Did he word the question incorrectly ("Can I use the bathroom" rather an "May I use the bathroom?") And some of these "bully" teachers won't mind if your child makes a joke back to the teacher (depends on the teacher). Have you tried talking to said teacher?