my son is 8 in 3rd grade. dealing with a bully for the 2nd yr now . The bully is now being physical.

Honestly if the Principal and School Police say that nothing can be done I would advise my child that the next time this kid picks on him to ball up his fist and punch him square in the nose. Sometimes you have to teach your children to stand up for themselves when no one else will.

hi if your son or daughter is being bully at school, your school is responsible for that child, every school should and i believe they have a security district, i live in long island as of yesterday my grandson was choked by the neck real hard leaving him his neck all red, the school called my daughter, she went to pick him and the principal told her they would take care of it, she did not believe they would handle it the right way the young boy who put his hands around my grandson neck was still in school that day, she called the security district she told them what happen in school and they told her the principal is suppose to call them with every thing bad that happens in the school, if he did not which he did not , the security would take care of it and if nothing was done with this bully, we would be asked for the police to come to the school, my daughter would file a report, and this student should be suspended for some time. As for today my grandson who is 11yrs old did go to school and did not see this bully who hurt. they are in some class together, my grandson is a good kid and a straight "A' student, he never looks for trouble but for some reason trouble seems to find him, we too worry about him being in school, we also thought of home study. but we are going to have him take SELF DEFENSE CLASS'S. maybe this is what we all need to have tour kids take, and for someone to teach our little ones how to take care of themselves..
I hope this helped a little.

I am dealing with similar issues with my 9 year old son. He recently started attending a private Christian school and he was completely shunned by his class since day one. Then he started being targeted by one boy and his friends with verbal insults and threats. He came home one day with purple welts all over his upper body from games being played at recess where 2 or 3 girls would hold down one boy while another girl pinched and twisted their skin. I met with the principal the next day who seemed to shrug it off as normal 4th grade behavior. I asked him about more supervision on the playground and he said they couldn't do that because they would have to hire more aides! Then yesterday the 3 boys were repeatedly trying to hit my son in the face with a ball at recess! He then felt compelled to have to fight this kid and was very upset and crying because he does not like violence but he's tired of being picked on. He started the school year happy and excited and is now depressed constantly. I honestly don't know what to do about this... how much is normal socialization and when is it too much? I also worry that there is little or no supervision during recess... my son says he see's no one out there.

Where are the adults while this is going on?? Do the teachers see this happening and stand idly by and do nothing?
I doubt that - I think this happens when no adults are present and so - there should NEVER come a time that no adults are present. Children in school should ALWAYS be in the presence of an adult or certainly within shouting distance of an adult.
If there''s no other way to prevent it, go to gym class yourself or send a willing relative to the school during gym class. The gym teacher should be keeping an eye but since they're not, go yourself or send someone.
Who is watching over the children at lunch? They are clearly not watching closely enough.
Go in and observe yourself to see what you see - see if the lunch room aides are actually in the lunchroom or if they're sitting casually outside chatting with each other.
If all else fails or even if it doesn't, organize a group of people/parents and grandparents/ to volunteer and go in especially at recess and lunch and keep an eye on things yourselves.