I need help! I have a 9yr old boy that is about to turn 10yrs old next month and he still has restroom problem

I am his father and he has been living with me a little over a year. My wife has to wash his clothes and usually gets sick in the process... What can help my son stop using the restroom in his clothes?????

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My 12 year old son still has accidents. There are members in our family (my sister, my husband's sister) who still had accidents until junior high. Do NOT embarrass or shame your son for these accidents. Some children do have trouble gaining control. Do visit a doctor. My son is on desmopressin which he takes at night before bed. This medicine has helped stop his bedwetting at night. In my son's case, he does not have the neuroreceptors to be cognizant of the cue to go to the bathroom. Our doctor recommended, bowel and toilet training. Essentially we are training our son to go to the bathroom every hour. Our difficulty is getting teachers to understand that they need to direct him to go to the bathroom (not expect him to tell them he has the urge). But with the doctor's help, we've made good progress. He's not having as many accidents (maybe 2-3/qtr now). My nephew completely outgrew this by junior high and we are optimistic. Your wife's reaction is horrible and she needs to get better control.

I would rule out any medical problems by seeing an urologist.

Then, if nothing shows up, I would see a psychiatrist, as this may be sign of stress or psychological problem.

hockeymum asks also a good question: is it something new or was he never clean? Also, are those isolated accidents or something more regular.

In any case, I would get a medical opinion.

Definately go see a doctor asap. He may need a urologist or other specialist appointment. Is this a recent occurence or has he never really used the toilet?
Sudden new changes in behavior could be due to stress or abusive situations. You may need to investigate his lifestyle prior to coming to live with you. Good luck.

I'm sure he doesn't intentionally want to have the accidents, because it's embarassing, and other children are likely avoiding him, too. Have you talked to your son's pediatrician about it? There may be some physical problems that are causing him to be unable to get to the bathroom in time, and have these accidents. Please make an appointment with his doctor.

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