How can my daughter deal with mean classmate and the felling that she does not have friends because

Well, It seems like your on the right track. Your doing the right thing as a mother. as far as getting her the treatment that she needs to deal with such a thing. Just keep doing what your doing, and if the problem persists you should confront the situation. Get the principal and teacher's involved. Have them call the other parent if you need to so that the other child can be repremanded for their behavior.

It sounds fine and dandy to tell you that your girl must stand up for herself, but i find that many kids haven't harnessed that skill at such a young age unless it's been reinforced at home first. For example, child has siblings where "standing up" is a must-do. Counseling is key. There's something much deeper to consider in this problem and you will need formal help. Your school's Principal must take the stand first, not your child. Children must receive sensitivity training (i don't know what else to call it) and be given the opportunity to role-play. Yes, turn the table on the bullies in a controlled environment in the school and dare I say let them have it? Obviously this needs to be fine-tuned and I don't offer this advice loosely, but I've seen it work. Bullies need help, too, as they are suffering inside and are using the only tool they feel they have. It's not an easy situation, it requires lots of thought, and do involve the school social workers as they are resourceful experts. Your child's school leaders and authority figures simply MUST be held accountable as well as the bully's parents. I would never settle for anything other than what I recommend here. Don't settle for less when the emotional and physical safety of your child is jeopardized. You're helping to set the precedent for her in her adult life. Best wishes to you and your very special girl. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers!

I tell my 5 year old she has a special mission she has to teach them how to used their good manners, I tell her it wont be easy but if you think its too hard dont do it, we come up with scenerios and we each give a solution she feels her solutions will always work.

I purchased a popular American Girl work book on bulling. It had some good hints on how to stand up for yourself. My daughter was bullied to the point of depression, and anorexia. My child's physician did help by sending some specific instructions to the school, requesting support. I went as far as to pull my child from school, next year I am sure what we are doing next.