Most kids look up to an older sibling. Is there any way possible for you to make sure this kid spends more time with you? Like outings that both of you like? I don't know if the kid in question is a boy or girl, so car shopping for boys, window shopping at the mall for a girl. Go play games together at the mall. You know what I mean? Keep the kid away from his friends as much as possible without letting the kid know your motives. Cause, maybe if you do this often enough the kid will begin to see what he/she was doing in a different light, and what her/his friends are doing in a different light. Just make sure to keep talk light, eventually the kid will open up more and more and more. Maybe a long car ride some weekend, that's always a help if possible. Going to a park for a picnic. Just make sure what you do that it's not possible for any of this kids friends to make themselves available to come with you. Use this as one on one. Someday, if it all works out for the best, you can tell your sibling what you did and why you did it. At least this might help, because I know my kids got real mouthy when their friends were around and they spent too much time with them, but once I pulled the carpet out from underneath their feet (I found other things to do for them) then their mouthiness went away. Is this sibling involved in ANY sport? I think EVERY child should have one organized sport per school year, and one other organized brain activity thru the school year. This also helps keep them distracted from other unpleasant activities. Good luck...any help is better than no help.

Parents need to make their first priority caring for their children. Without proper attention, direction, love, and guidance, children are apt to make poor decisions on their own. 15-year-olds are not adults, and they still need parental supervision. Instead of talking on this forum, talk to your mom and dad.

Easy, My parents are divorsed I live with my aunt, My mom lives nearby with her husband, and my dad lives with her wife.

So where are your parents? If you're in Mexico, and your sisters live in the U.S., why aren't your folks supervising them?

P.S. excuse my grammar its been a long time.
"Or when they have to TAKE an exam, test, etc."

Whether the child is being truthful or not, this is attention-getting behavior at the minimum. Sometimes, going to a medical doctor for a "check up" first will show the child you care about his/her health and you are willing to act on the child's word. The doctor can confirm cuts and other less desirable behavior, and maybe recommend psychological assistance. Then, you are not the heavy. An impartial outsider is offering suggestions and choices. THEN, you and your teen have options to talk about rather than an accusation and denial contest.

Please speak to your sibling, and your parents. Your sibling needs help.

Since your sibling told this to you, it is obvious that your sibling is reaching out to you. Be there for him/her. See if you can find out what the underlying problem is.

Teens are scary sometimes. Even if your child isn't doing these things, how would you know? Start with your childs' school counselor. If you know your child, you should know their friends and some of the parents. Talk to all the parents you can, see what their child has been telling them. Talk to your child. Go for a long car ride with just your child. It don't matter where, make up something. A mall a couple of hours away will work. Kids tend to open up if they are in a car. Mine always did, anyway. Just say no to i-pods, videos, & games, on the ride. Just a kid and me thing. If he/she says they cut, can they show you? We had some friends of my daughter who did this, and it can be a copycat thing. We talked and talked about this, and her and their other group of friends worked with these 2 until they finally quit doing it. Thee was also counselor and parent intervention, plus all the parents of their friends knew what was going on. The other kids at least didn't follow them, and they thought with their heads, not their emotions. One thing....you don't have to come on strong arming the kid, but don't pull punches with your words. Don't coddle the child, too many parents are afraid of making their kids mad. At 15, they are still "kids". We are still responsible for them. Good luck

I would talk to her before something bad happen.

Try to talk to her. If that doesn't work, try to find evidence that she's drinking, doing dope and cutting herself. I have a classmate who cut himself and ended up going to a mental institute for a week because his parents didn't know what to do with him. After he stayed the week he "needed", he DIDN'T change. It actually made him worse. He started starving himself. I don't want your daughter to suffer. Or you could hold an intervention with close friends and family to help her with the problems.

Take everything they say word for word. At the minimum you need to talk to someone who specializes in this tyope of thing ie-psychiatrist. I know that word can be scary for some to even think about, but trust me, if they do nothing but talk it out, it is for the best.

Personally, being in high school and all, I have friends who are serious when they say that they do those things. Then there are others who are depressed in a way where they will claim that they cut (etc.) but they are just bluffing. But either way, they need help. Most importantly, he/she needs YOU. Sometimes all us teenagers need is someone to listen and stop trying to fix everything.

Get help now Bluffing or not it is a cry for your attention. Seek outside help for all who touch this life.

Are you the only children in the family?
You say youre in mexico...is she elswhere? Meaning maybe she's missing the heck out of you and rescenting your not being there???????

Oh and DO NOT call Child Services ....theyll remove her from the home making thing escalate!!! People that havent gone through anything of this nature seem to think they have all the right answers. Love,attention, listening and more, is what it takes to get a kid to open up, not child services, intervention, cops etc. If anything those are very last resorts. Kids dont act out because its fun, I dont care how pretty their life might appear.
I had a pretty house, a cop for a father, lived in a nice neighborhood, had friends, I was miserable.
Nobody knew the cop beat me, my Mom was losing it because he was divorcing her for a younger woman, she was taking it out on me. Appearances arent always what they seem. I couldnt get positive attention, so I went for the latter. Even got into a gang.Go with your gut.

She obviously needs attention, give it to her. I was a ward of the court from 12 to 18, I did dope, ran from every placement, was locked up all but 16 months of those 6 years & OD'd twice (in a coma for a week ).
I wasnt getting the attention I need being me, so I acted out, and kept acting out until somebody listened.
Get her some counceling and keep an eye on her. Be calm, kind, uderstanding, even if your dont understand.
She needs to resolve things now before it gets out of control.
Hope all turns out great!!
Oh yes, since 18, Ive had one ticket for going 4 miles over the speed limit, have single handedly raised two great daughters who are complete opposites of who I was. Thank GOD!!!

Therapy IMMEDIATELY for the cutting!
Constant AND consistent parental intervention for the drinking/smoking pot.

Contact your local child protective services in your area. Most have help available for these types of behaviours.

u really need 2 get that kid help coz u never know if its the truth or not so tell some1 a child helper and tell his or her perants and your mom or dad

Bluffing or not, are you willing to wait and find out?

This is the kind of advise I was waiting for. Thanks, by the way, Im His/her 23 year old brother.

No matter what your 15 says, in some way he is begging for help and in some ways screaming to get your attention. My oldest now 19 failed the 8th and 9th grade on purpose becuase he thought me and his father seperated would get mad. He also became very angry at me and started to harm me. Thinking it was all my fault.

What I discovered was he needed a nuetal party to talk to. Someone who didn't threathen him, he trusted, even a counselor he could vent to. Today at 19, he graduated and is in college. Give him an outlet to speak and you will be surprised at the change. I recommend family first if he trust someone to keep secrets unless they will tell you. Unless he is truly harming himself the person will know when to tell and when to not tell. No matter what he needs help. He just doesn't know how to ask.

Best of luck. A word of advice, that I learned very fast for having 3 boys, choose your battles, they aren't all as important as this one.

The desire for teens to "fit in" to some peer group is very strong, so I'm not surprised to hear that if a student is a cutter, many of their friends are, too. I know some kids burn themselves with cigarettes, and engage in other pain-inflicting activities.
Your initial question was "are they bluffing," but if you already know their friends are cutters, why did you ask us?

Ok, my mistake I just clicked the boxes I thought would be more convinient.

Plus besides letting you know some kids do things like these, because is not only the kid Im talking about but all his/her friends too.

About what Im going to do with this kid, well Im going to have to tell her mom I´ve got no choice.

I hope you don't mind my asking, but this question was categorized for Middle School, which is normally 7th and 8th grade in the U.S. Kids who are age 15 are usually in High School....has this student been held back for some reason? Do you know if they have any diagnosed learning or attention difficulties? Sometimes kids "self-medicate," and sometimes they use substances as an "escape," etc., but in any event, it seems like they could benefit from a professional consultation.

You should certainly worry even if it's a bluff for it's a very strange choice of bluffs. Bluffing about such things would be a choice worthy of worry.
Particularly the cutting - most 'cutters' wear long sleeves and long pants to hide the cutting. Cutting is dangerous behavior as some cutters accidentally nick themselves in a major vein or artery. And even when they don't, cutting is a sign of serious emotional issues.
Would you bluff with your doctor that you thought you had a serious disease? Would you fake signs of a serious disease? Even if your son is not a cutter, to fake that he is is a sign that something's wrong.

Good luck with this - getting children through their teenage years is a great challenge.

of course Im related to this person otherwise I wouldnt be worried.

Are you related to this kid? If you're not his or her parent maybe you should talk to them about what he/she told you first.

I once tried to ditch school once, and I got caught, this kid seems to be very.. amm... the actual words were "(07:50:51 p.m.): im slik", arent the teachers supposed to call roll?

this kid as far as I know is ditchin school tomorrow.. but I live in Mexico & cant contact the school

You should worry and take the necessary steps to get this child help. Even if it turns out to be a lie, it's a serious lie and that itself indicates a problem.

There is a reason why this teen is telling you these things and to me it seems a very obvious cry for help. Please don't hesitate to take the necessary steps to help this child before he/she really hurts him/herself.