My 5 year old daughter hates to read or write her abc's or 123's.

This age can be very difficult to discipline a child to focus. I would suggest using alphabet soup when teaching her the alphabet. It's a fun, interactive appraoch. Also, you could use the big block letters that can be implemented on a wall or other hard surface. You have to make it more of a fun experience, indirectly being an educational one. Hope this helps.

She is ONLY a preschooler!Children don't really develop their fine moter skills for writing till they are in kindergarten. Most children can trace but still wont be completely staying on the inside of the lines when coloring till the end of their kindergarten year. I agree with hannamom the best thing you could get for your child is Leap Frog or Leapster anything. You want to make learning fun and rewarding in Preschool and Kindergarten because its the foundation for the rest of their learning years!If you make it a chore they will fight you on it and hate learning. I also agree with teacher/parent to do and get fun things that involve ABC's and 123's(shaving cream letters are a blast for a kid).

I had this problem with my daughter... ...she was excelling in everything, but when it came time to write letters. etc., it was like poulling teeth. We approached it with the "My First Leap Frog" (About $40 at WalMart.) This allowed her to have the "game" teeach at her pace. Within a month she was writing her letters, displaying letter recongnition and was able to recognize 3 letter sight words! In Kindergarten, we were approached about the methods we had used, as the teacher had noticed the acceleration. She is now in the third grade and has been in the Gifted Program for 2 years now. (She is pacing at a 6th Grade level in reading and math!) She is also fluently writing in cursive! I hop ethe Leap Frog System is as successful for your family as it was for mine.

I would ask your daughter's pediatrician if he/she can recommend a developmental optometrist, or find one through www.childrensvision.com/OD.htm
Separately, I would also contact the public school district to request a speech/language and occupational therapy evaluation.
Please also join us in the Learning and Attention Difficulties Group at community.greatschools.net/groups/11554 to find out more about testing and your rights, and what the schools can do, versus doctors evaluations.