How far would you go to help your child in his or her home work or school project or any other things in his or her life.
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i let them try to do the project or homework by themselves first and then help if they can not figure it out. some things i help more on like projects because they are excited to do it and so am i.
I support. I'm there to bounce ideas off of creatively. I'm there to brainstorm. I'm there to help show the most effective and time efficient way to do something. I'm there to answer questions without giving the answers.
The main thing is that I'm there to empower my children to do it themselves. If they need help, I'm there for support and a lending hand. But in no way would I do the work for them. EVER. Period. That defeats the purpose of the assignment.
My daughter has thrived in this environment, and she was always a child who needed hand-holding. Not anymore!! She's found her inner-power and knows she can do it by herself. I'm very proud of her for her hard work, and I'm proud of myself for doing it the way I did.
The main thing is that I'm there to empower my children to do it themselves. If they need help, I'm there for support and a lending hand. But in no way would I do the work for them. EVER. Period. That defeats the purpose of the assignment.
My daughter has thrived in this environment, and she was always a child who needed hand-holding. Not anymore!! She's found her inner-power and knows she can do it by herself. I'm very proud of her for her hard work, and I'm proud of myself for doing it the way I did.
I am always supportive with helping my children with their homework. I do not see any problems with it. My DD who is in the 7th grade has been diagnosed with a combination of ADD and ADHD. She has problems focusing on the task at hand especially when you have a just turned 5 year old that is constantly running throughout the house. I have her, and my DS that is in the 6th grade, complete their homework and if they have questions on a particular one come and ask for help. But after they complete their homework, they are to bring it to me or my husband for checking. I do not believe children should return homework that is incorrect.
If the assignment is incorrect I let them know what they did wrong and they go back and fix the wrong problem.
As for Projects, I have them do the project and I just monitor them. All they want is some advice and acknowledgment that they are doing it correctly and that their ideas are great. Helps boost their enthusiasm toward the task, knowing that mommy and daddy thinks their chose/ideas are great.
If the assignment is incorrect I let them know what they did wrong and they go back and fix the wrong problem.
As for Projects, I have them do the project and I just monitor them. All they want is some advice and acknowledgment that they are doing it correctly and that their ideas are great. Helps boost their enthusiasm toward the task, knowing that mommy and daddy thinks their chose/ideas are great.
Homework is something given to young children and teenagers and it's given to a group and that work might not be the right thing for every individual in the group.
As a parent, I went all out to help my children with their homework when they needed help. With my older son, that was when he came and said "I need help." He was a good judge of that.
With my younger son, that was almost all the time except with math - he was dyslexic, read poorly and oh so slowly and wrote even more slowly - if he had to do all his homework on his own without any support, it would have taken more hours than there are in an evening and he still would have gotten a very low grade for his yet very hard work.
As a culture, we have a fear that people including children are inclined to take advantage and we live looking askance at the need for help and wonder if we're just being put upon and if the real issue is laziness. As a teacher, I never saw a lazy student. I saw scared students, kids who had no confidence in themselves, kids who froze like the deer in the highlight and lots of others who for one reason or another could use some help with homework to get it started, to contend with a subject they were weak in, or just to get it all done because they'd been assigned more hours of it than there were in an evening.
We all have our own philsophy of parenting but mine and me subscribe to the one that says when I can help I will- with homework or with the problems that life puts in our path - and I look to my children to do the same for me.
As a parent, I went all out to help my children with their homework when they needed help. With my older son, that was when he came and said "I need help." He was a good judge of that.
With my younger son, that was almost all the time except with math - he was dyslexic, read poorly and oh so slowly and wrote even more slowly - if he had to do all his homework on his own without any support, it would have taken more hours than there are in an evening and he still would have gotten a very low grade for his yet very hard work.
As a culture, we have a fear that people including children are inclined to take advantage and we live looking askance at the need for help and wonder if we're just being put upon and if the real issue is laziness. As a teacher, I never saw a lazy student. I saw scared students, kids who had no confidence in themselves, kids who froze like the deer in the highlight and lots of others who for one reason or another could use some help with homework to get it started, to contend with a subject they were weak in, or just to get it all done because they'd been assigned more hours of it than there were in an evening.
We all have our own philsophy of parenting but mine and me subscribe to the one that says when I can help I will- with homework or with the problems that life puts in our path - and I look to my children to do the same for me.
I let them do it by themselves, and I check it after they are done, but if they need my help then I help them out. In projects, I always there helping them, some projects they require parents help and supervision.
If it's something he or she has already mastered and can do independently, I just check to make sure it's done.
However, I also encourage my kids to enter wrting contests, science fairs, spelling bees, etc. Many times with those they have to do things that have not been presented in school yet-- write a bibliography for the science fair, or conduct original research for National History Day. With those kinds of things, I will freely admit to taking my kids by the hand and leading them through the process. How else are they going to learn?
However, I also encourage my kids to enter wrting contests, science fairs, spelling bees, etc. Many times with those they have to do things that have not been presented in school yet-- write a bibliography for the science fair, or conduct original research for National History Day. With those kinds of things, I will freely admit to taking my kids by the hand and leading them through the process. How else are they going to learn?
I believe their work must be their own, I will buy books and give them direction in where they can research, I will proofread when they finish but other than that ... the work must be their own. it is cheating if parents are giving too much input. the child also doesnt learn anything except how to get someone else to do your work
I'm always willing to help my children with homework. I also will seek out any programs, books, and information on the internet that will benefit my child. When doing homework I give advice on how to come up with the correct answer, how to work the problem, and how to gather information. When asked by my children to complete the assignment that is one line I will not cross.
This answer should depend on the child's true abilities on how much help is given. It is great if all children can "plow ahead" on their own, and understand where and how much infomation is needed for a project.
Not all children are able to do this all on their own. My younger daughter doesn't have too much prblems knowing how to start, research, organize, and finish a prohject. My older daughter however, has many issues that hinder focus, attention, organization, ect. and gets overhwlemed. While she is able to re-state paragraphs of research in her own words(usually), she needs tremendous help in getting started and how to arrange posters, research papers, ect.
"How much" help given should be based on child's needs as not all are able to do projects on their own as expected. It would be nice if they could, but reality dictates when and how much help should be given. I won't allow my daughter to sink because I think she should do it all on her own when I know differently.
Not all children are able to do this all on their own. My younger daughter doesn't have too much prblems knowing how to start, research, organize, and finish a prohject. My older daughter however, has many issues that hinder focus, attention, organization, ect. and gets overhwlemed. While she is able to re-state paragraphs of research in her own words(usually), she needs tremendous help in getting started and how to arrange posters, research papers, ect.
"How much" help given should be based on child's needs as not all are able to do projects on their own as expected. It would be nice if they could, but reality dictates when and how much help should be given. I won't allow my daughter to sink because I think she should do it all on her own when I know differently.
I try to be involved as little as possible. I hate homework as much now as I did back then. Lol.
When it comes to homework of course I will give guidance if they ask for it. As for projects the only thing I will do is help bounce ideas of each other for a topic etc. As for research and writting and everything else thats their job. I think parents who do their kids assignments are short changing them in the long run.
When it comes to homework of course I will give guidance if they ask for it. As for projects the only thing I will do is help bounce ideas of each other for a topic etc. As for research and writting and everything else thats their job. I think parents who do their kids assignments are short changing them in the long run.
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