my daughter is failing 9th grade due to laziness, she just doesn't do the work assigned no matter what. how d
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do online classes over the summer work to get her up to grade level?
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My son did the same thing. Thought he was punishing his Dad and I. I sat him down and told him he was way to smart to this to himself and to think it would punish his parents was wrong.
I can't make him do school work, at that age there is a consequence. With him it was do you want to spend you life fighting hard to get somewhere, or would you like a boost up because you put effort into it. I placed it all on him. Wished him all the luck and support I could, and said I will not force you to do the right thing. It's time for you to do the right thing.
Amazingly, something clicked, he did summer school two years in a row and graduated all on his own. And then went on to college. I asked one thing on him, give me one year. If it's not for you, I respect your decision and move on. He is still in college and loving it.
Make your child choose. They do understand the choice they are making. They aren't't punishing you only themselves. Good luck.
I can't make him do school work, at that age there is a consequence. With him it was do you want to spend you life fighting hard to get somewhere, or would you like a boost up because you put effort into it. I placed it all on him. Wished him all the luck and support I could, and said I will not force you to do the right thing. It's time for you to do the right thing.
Amazingly, something clicked, he did summer school two years in a row and graduated all on his own. And then went on to college. I asked one thing on him, give me one year. If it's not for you, I respect your decision and move on. He is still in college and loving it.
Make your child choose. They do understand the choice they are making. They aren't't punishing you only themselves. Good luck.
Probably not- if she won't work when she is at school with someone telling her to do work why would you think that she would complete online classes which require a lot more self motivation and self discipline?
thank you soooo much for your answer i plan on showing it to her later on this evening amd see what she has to say and go from there. thanks again. mary
Can I just say something? A "D" is not truly passing.
Technically it's not a fail, but it's not anywhere near an acceptable grade.
I really think there is something else going on here. Whether it's friends, a boy, or gods-forbid something worse, I suggest you step in hard and fast. Can you take her to an independent guidance counsellor?
You go into the first session alone and lay out your concerns, then send her in alone so she feels safe enough to talk and open up. Pick someone you think she'll be okay talking to.
Also, talking to your primary care physician about drug testing is probably a good idea.
It might not be drugs, she's at that age where depression is a doozie, and she's at that age where complacency, if allowed to settle, can become a big problem. If she was getting good-decent grades before, I doubt it's a learning issue, but you never know. Don't rule it out.
I wish you the best. But get on top of this in her early years of HS before it's too late. She still has the possibility of a promising future. Maybe she just doesn't see it.
Technically it's not a fail, but it's not anywhere near an acceptable grade.
I really think there is something else going on here. Whether it's friends, a boy, or gods-forbid something worse, I suggest you step in hard and fast. Can you take her to an independent guidance counsellor?
You go into the first session alone and lay out your concerns, then send her in alone so she feels safe enough to talk and open up. Pick someone you think she'll be okay talking to.
Also, talking to your primary care physician about drug testing is probably a good idea.
It might not be drugs, she's at that age where depression is a doozie, and she's at that age where complacency, if allowed to settle, can become a big problem. If she was getting good-decent grades before, I doubt it's a learning issue, but you never know. Don't rule it out.
I wish you the best. But get on top of this in her early years of HS before it's too late. She still has the possibility of a promising future. Maybe she just doesn't see it.
Tell your daughter to stop slacking on her school work and start working hard on it. If she doesn't, punish her and see what she does. Usualyl, punishment should do the trick!
Online - the one she went to is in Arizona - Oak Creek Ranch School (she liked it)
where did you find these summer camps ? we live in he fishhawk area. none of the guidance counselors or teachers have mentioned this option.
I don't know about online courses but there are summer camps that do summer school. As long as they are accredited the public school will take the credits. My daughter did it last summer and got 2 credits over the summer.
Have you had her tested for learning disabilities? I thought my daughter was just lazy but I had her tested and there was some problems with learning.
Is it possible that when she first began skipping occasional assignments and working less in class, back in middle school, she quickly found that there were no real consequences? I mean, that passing is automatic in middle school.
That's the case in my district, and it sort of "sets up" the kids when they get to HS and grades count.
John
That's the case in my district, and it sort of "sets up" the kids when they get to HS and grades count.
John
You may want to check out this great book,
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls "offers compassion and strategies to help revive these young women''s lost sense of self."
I am more inclined to think there are some emotional issues going on behind the scene which are affecting her studies.
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls "offers compassion and strategies to help revive these young women''s lost sense of self."
I am more inclined to think there are some emotional issues going on behind the scene which are affecting her studies.
when she fell behind by 15 assignments and i had to stand over her all weekend. it is like when laundry builds up and you become overwhelmed by the amount of work its going to take to get it all done. she has no learning disabilities and scores above average on all standarized testing. she has new friends in hgh school of course but is not acting out or being disrespectful in anyway but she does lie about anything she thinks she can get away with. i think that abiut covers it. oh, she feels like she can do "really good" on finals and all her grades will at least be d's "passing" thanks again.
thank you for answering. i don't think she is going to have a choice about online classes. this way i will be able to at least monitor her work and make sure assignments are done. i know that is like reverting to 1st grade but we'll do what ever it takes a this point. i have spoken to her teachers and guidance counselor and a.p. this is not really new it started in 7th grade
If your daughter isn't motivated, she isn't likely to pass online classes, either. If you don't mind my asking, is her lack of motivation something new? How were her grades before high school? Does she have learning disabilities? Did she struggle in middle school, too, or did something change recently? Does she have a new boyfriend or something else distracting her? Have you asked her high school counselor for suggestions?
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