Does your child tends to go more with his daddy? Sometimes kids tend to prefer one of the parents more than the other, I think this is normal at their age. I have a 8 year old daughter and since she was little, her first word was dadda. She tends always to go with her dad most of the time, she did this since she was little and still tends to be daddy's little girl even though I spend more time around her. She cries if she doesn't go somewhere with her dad even just around the corner.

Dont think this way.Give it time people are different in many ways.If you are still unhappy then maybe you need to see a parent counceling for help. Put time in for all your kids and play with them as much as you can.Your last child will come around soon.

TJ -

I think it's pretty close how many say Mama or Dada first. But then words are in the ears of the listener as well. And since Mama tends to be around more, coaching and waiting . . .

I think most languages have some thing similar to mama for mother and dada for father, but I believe there's at least one where it's reversed.

It took forever for my daughter to start calling me, "Mama." Isn't it normal for a baby's first word to be "Dada?"

Well drjohson, I am willing to take all the advice I can get. I have been hugging my little guy more and rather then take the article of clothing away I let him drag-it all around the house! You wanna here something funny his first word is DADA for Daddy so at night when I am rocking him to sleep or for a naP I'll sing a song it goes like this I love mama yes I do until he goes to sleep my husband looks and laughs at me he says I''m silly for thinking my kid don't like me.

Maggie -

My twins are 13 now, and they still sometimes will take my sweater or t-shirt to bed.

and my usual disclaimer - I'm not an MD, I'm a mom whose initials are DRJ. And I've just had a bit more experience from my 2 kids than I might have expected at the beginning!

drjohonson, that must be why he always has some article of my clothing. When we are at home he is dragging some piece of my clothing around with him. My mother-in-law tells me I should stay home with him. Although I wish I could I do have to work.

Here are a few aimed at adopted babies. I don't know why your son is behaving the way he does, but it seems that some of these techniques may help even though the situation is different.

adoption.suite101.com/article.cfm/attaching_to_adopted_infants_and_toddlers

http://74.125.93.132/search?q=cache:yXnMr1rGSWcJ:www.literacytrust.org.uk/talktoyourbaby/Strengtheningthebond.pdf+A+Bond+with+your+adopted+toddler&cd=15&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a

ezinearticles.com/?Adopting-a-Child---Bonding-With-My-Adopted-Child&id=1739316

I know a 1 year old kid is getting heavy, but I'm suggesting keeping him in a snuggly close to your body, for some period of time each day while you wash dishes or whatever. And yes, I'm suggesting that you continue to hug and rock him, even if he's crying for his dad or whatever.

Also, be the primary source of all good food. Feeding is very primal. Try keeping him in your lap or otherwise close to you while popping goodies in his mouth.

Put an item of your freshly worn clothing in his crib each night.

I'll see if I can find some relevant articles for you.

drjohnson, what is it that you suggest? Don't get me wrong I do hug and cuddle with him but sometimes he cries until I put him down. I am a working mom so when I go pick him up he sees me and will go to me so I can carry him. But sometimes he just will cry with me so are you telling me to hug him when he cries? I think that is what I am understanding?

I wonder if this is some sort of attachment disorder.

Babies and young children with attachment problems due to circumstances surrounding their adoption, are often supposed to be physically carries by their new mom in one of those papoose type things to keep them close to your body. To teach hem to derive comfort from your physical presence.

I wonder if this type of thing might help you.

It seems like it would be a good idea to push the bond rather than going with his misguided flow.

Just my biased idea as a mom - no professional dx or anything.

maggie:

Glad to hear your son is developing normally. As others have said, he's going through a phase. Don't worry, as this will pass, and one day he'll decide your his "favorite" for the day!

He is meeting all his developmental milestones so no problem there. tjlove, I think you described it best. He will come with me when he is hungry or thirsty or needs to be changed or even when he just wants to be held but he dosen't like to play with me. He would rather play with his older brother or his Dad. He is barely starting to play with the middle brother because before he would just have a fit if my middle son would try to play with him. My baby gives my husband so many kisses it really is cute, but if I ask for one he just looks at me then looks away. When my husband tells him to give mamma kisses then he'll give me one. For being a boy he is going to have attitude I think.(oh no!)

Well my sister acted like that towards my mom for a while. Shee would always talk to her dad and not mom(she was 4) but she is still like that, sometimes she has her dad days and other times she has her mom days. Little kids are interesting like that, you never know how they really feel or why they do the things they do. Don't take it personally though.... I'm sure your son will be at your side every minute soon!!! :)

Hi Maggie93215,
I'm not sure if this is similar, but my daughter who is 2.5 goes through phases where she favors me completely over my husband or vice versa. It's almost like she can't like both of us at the same time. Whoever of us is not in her favor she won't come near, she won't hug, she won't play with. Lucky for me (or not) it happens that she tends to prefer me over dad more often but it really hurts his feelings that she's so fickle. I spoke with our pediatrician and he said it's normal behavior. Some kids are just like that.

What does the pediatrician say? Is your baby meeting all of his developmental milestones?

What does your son do to make you feel he doesn't like you?