my kindergardener is being hit by a special need child at school for many times,yet the school doesn't take

Additional answer - if this is a private school, the hitting child is not protected as in public schools. They can be suspended. Often private schools are not sure how to help with disabled students. Practice compassion with the other parent, whose child may not be invited back if the behavior does not improve. Talk to the parent. Good luck.

Special needs children are protected from typical discipline, if their disability is a factor in what happened. If you are expecting the kid to be suspended, it won't happen. Not that it should. Ask yourself these questions? Is my child being physically hurt? If so, ask the school to develop a behavior improvement plan to work on the child not hitting others. Approach the other parent with this idea. If your child is merely annoyed, try one of the books geared toward teaching sensitivity to children with disabilities. Your child may be able to help the other child learn good social skills. Like saying "no hit" very clearly or "stop". These are the challenges many disabled students have. Good luck.

I had a similar situation in Sunday school about 5 years ago. The 3-year old class would have a singing and prayer time where they stand in a circle and hold hands. Well, this little boy would hit my daughter. I was REALLY upset after the second time she told me this. I was ready to go to war. I found out the boy was special needs [autistic]; then I found out he only hit her when she tried to hold his hand. This was really sad to me because my daughter is just a sweety. She gives away hugs and holds hands and is always trying to take care of the kids that need it in class, which is why she always ends up next to this particular boy. This wasn't as bad as I thought, I really needed to calm down. I explained to both my kids, in a rather simple way, that some kids are really nice but they have special needs and cannot be touched and when it comes time for sing along or prayers to just stand next to the boy but don't touch. They played together and my daughter never touched him again and never got slapped either.

However, this simple explanation came back to bite me when my son entered Kindergarten the next year. They had a little girl who had Downs Syndrome. My son would talk about her, always calling her his friend and how silly she was, I didn't think anything about it. I was actually proud that my son would not discrimitate against a kid because of their differences. Eventually she was moved to a special school. Later the teacher told me that my son would never hold her hand when they had to line up or were buddies for some special assignment. He would clasp his hands together and shake his head no. It took me a few months realize that he would not touch her because of what I told him about special needs kids. At this point I had to go into a more detailed explanation about special needs.

Maybe your child can understand a more detailed explanation. If anything maybe you can observe the class and see exactly what is causing the physical outburst. It may be really innocent and not at all what you are envisioning. As moms we tend to get a little mama bearish when it comes to our kids. But remember, they are still kids. I am sure the intent is not to hurt your child.

When you report the hitting, be sure to do so in writing. State what you expect the school to do about it, a summary of what happened and the impact on your child, your contact information. Make sure that both the teacher and the principal have a copy.

The paper trail is your documentation that you notified the district.