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Parent Answers to "MY SON IS HYPER WONT SIT STILL IN CLASS SOMEONE PLEASE HELP?"
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Does the teacher aware of his condition? Does your son has IEP?
It is impossible and unfair to expect a kid to sit without a help. My son (now 7) does very good at school, but his IEP team make adjustments for him and his teacher monitors him closely. She knows when he is about to blow and she works on prevention rather then punishment. For instance, she can ask him to deliver a message to an office, or hold a heavy door, or bring something or go to sit on a chair instead of a rug. She also have a star chart for him. Yes, we are blessed with a very good teacher, but it wasn't always that good. My son had to repeat a kindergarten and it took us almost 2 years to fight a school recommendation for a special ED 1:12 placement. Yes, he was that distractive and explosive too!
Last year he was also wearing a weight jacket part of a time and had a special inflated sit he could wiggled on without falling down from a chair.
It took the IEP team, diet management (look into your son gets for breakfast), lots of daily physical exercise (is there a way he can byke/rollerblade to school or run in a morning?) and I should admit we go to children's acupuncturist and reiki master 1 to 2 times a month to keep him under control. Also swimming and martial arts are really good for such kids.
I know it's intense, but combination of these things made a really big different. We went from a completely insane kid (his sensory issues were driving him nuts) to a pretty good student with a minor adjustments.
and yes, he doesn't take any drugs, but lot's of fish oil.
It is impossible and unfair to expect a kid to sit without a help. My son (now 7) does very good at school, but his IEP team make adjustments for him and his teacher monitors him closely. She knows when he is about to blow and she works on prevention rather then punishment. For instance, she can ask him to deliver a message to an office, or hold a heavy door, or bring something or go to sit on a chair instead of a rug. She also have a star chart for him. Yes, we are blessed with a very good teacher, but it wasn't always that good. My son had to repeat a kindergarten and it took us almost 2 years to fight a school recommendation for a special ED 1:12 placement. Yes, he was that distractive and explosive too!
Last year he was also wearing a weight jacket part of a time and had a special inflated sit he could wiggled on without falling down from a chair.
It took the IEP team, diet management (look into your son gets for breakfast), lots of daily physical exercise (is there a way he can byke/rollerblade to school or run in a morning?) and I should admit we go to children's acupuncturist and reiki master 1 to 2 times a month to keep him under control. Also swimming and martial arts are really good for such kids.
I know it's intense, but combination of these things made a really big different. We went from a completely insane kid (his sensory issues were driving him nuts) to a pretty good student with a minor adjustments.
and yes, he doesn't take any drugs, but lot's of fish oil.
jestump: I am gald you are reading smaller books. Don't push the 20 pg book on him just yet. not age appropriate. Felt boom stories are good. puppet stories these are age approprate.
Love him unconditionally and see if you can control this without having to accept adhd drugs. I did this for a long time with my oldest. It takes lots of patience and yes do give positive reinforcement. Tell him what a great job he does when he sits for a while and that you are so proud of him when he does sit. I wonder if he may need more challenging things to do. My son was very smart for his age and needed challenging things to do. Your son's distractions sound exactly like what my son went through. It took team work with the teacher too. Some teachers are better than others and we all know that. So depending on your son's teacher ask if he can sit closer to the front of the class and one of my son's teachers decided to play very soft classical music while the students did work in class. Also see if you can help your son by minimizing sugar intake and more sleep. These are only suggestions and I hope something works for you. I know how embarassed people can make you feel when you constantly get the news that your son doesn't sit still or misbehaves in class. Don't let them get you mad at your son. Love him and praise him. Keep trying and sit down to talk to him about what is expected of him in the nicest ways. good luck
Thanks everyone i will try them all and my son is nine years old
jestump, where young children need more immediate positive reinforcement and rewards can help, the goal will ultimately be to increase his "time on task." You might try a "sticker chart" where he can paste a sticker up for every 5-page book that is "read" and after he earns 20 stickers, he can get a special treat (maybe a toy, but it could also be a visit to a park or playground, or he can stay up 15 minutes later to watch a favorite show or play a game or play in the tub, or whatever would be desirable for him.) If you want to get more complex, you could tell him that if he sits with you to read a longer book, he can earn two stickers and so he'll complete the chart and earn the special treat even faster....
My son is 3 years old and in pre-k special ed class because of his apraxia. He does not like to just sit down and let us read a 20 page book with him right now, we figure its because of his age. So we have started to use 3-5 page books using what we know he likes, for instance thomas the train, he is all over that, work in progress i guess. Any other suggestions? Healthy food or toy rewards for sitting with us?
STORIQUEEN, how old is your son? It sounds like he could have ADHD...you should mention your concerns and the teacher's concerns to his doctor. There are rating scales that can be completed to help evaluate his behaviors. You can read more on www.help4adhd.org
I notice this about a year ago see the problem is that he wont stay in his seat at school long enough for the teacher can finish the lesson or he wants to somewhat be a class clown constantley getting out of his seat all day he gets upset when the teacher do not give him her full attention or when he do not understand something instead of asking for help he disturb the class with silly noises
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