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PCrawford March 2, 2009

proper punishment for a six yr old kinder

PCrawford
A socialable, bright child acts up in the classroom and is sent to the principals office in kindergarten. Age 6, not quite the age of reasoning, which I believe is 7. What is the appropriate punishiment for the child at home?
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MagnetMom
MagnetMom March 2, 2009
At that age, I think it's more important to explore what happened and how to avoid it happening again rather than a punishment, per se.

I'd ask what happened, how he/she thinks the teacher felt, talk about other ways to handle one's self in that situation, and perhaps writing a simple letter or drawing a picture apologizing for the behavior and how they'll do things differently next time. It might take 20 minutes, it might take 45 minutes, but that's better than sending the kid to their room for the same amount of time.
lockmama
lockmama March 2, 2009
I use time outs, but only when I catch the child in the act and she knows she is doing something that is against the rules. Will your child understand why they are being punished if they are not quite at the age of reasoning?

Whatever punishment you decide on, you might try role playing to help the child see where their behavior crossed the line and how they might react better in the future.
healthy11
healthy11 March 2, 2009
As others have said, I think less about punishment than about how to make it a learning experience, and try to make sure it doesn't happen again. We obviously don't know the details of what occurred, but you might even end your discussion by asking "if something like this did happen again, what do you think would be an appropriate way for us to deal with it?" (In other words, talk about logical consequences before there is a "next time," but hopefully there won't be a need.)
TeacherParent
TeacherParent March 3, 2009
How did he act out? There's acting out and acting out - did he speak out of turn, throw a temper tantrum or throw a smaller child out the window? For a bright and sociable Kindergartner to be sent to the Principal's office - that usually in and of itself is a punishment - bright children feel how demeaning that is to be banished from the community of their classroom and sent off to the Principal.
I don't know how his teacher handled it otherwise but as a teacher, I'd want to understand how it happened and what happened that caused a child to act out - unless a child has the habit of acting out, it's usually fairly easy to find what triggered the behavior and then to counsel the child to be aware of it and to be on the lookout for it so it doesn't happen the next time.
As a teacher, I'd ask parents to reinforce that kind of approach to the incident. No child is too young to be encouraged to be reflective about their behavior.

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