If I was you the first thing I would do is take her to the doctor and have her tested to make sure it's nothing medically wrong with her. Then, if she is well start taking previleges away, like her favorite toy, or tv show, etc. The things she likes the most to do, you take away for a day or two. Let her know you love her but you control her and not the other way around.

Terrible Two's. She's at an age where frustration is king. Especially with hearing difficulties things get rough. As long as you are calm and consistent with your punishments for "bad behavior" it should work out fine. My two year old is doing the same thing, he's not hearing impaired. Make sure everyone learns sign language and don't make "time-outs" too long. Explain her behaviors. "That's not nice" or "That hurt, we don't hurt people." But don't forget to say, "Good job for saying sorry." or "Thank you for sharing." It's helped with my Bubba, just remember SHE'S TWO, TERRIBLE TWO :)

Have you ever thought that she is 2 and just pushing her limits? I had this problem with my son, now 6, and am currently having this problem with my daughter, 2 (on Valentines). Both of my kids are strong willed and want their way - no matter what. You just have to be consistent in disciplining her. My daughter had constant ear infections but we got her on the right medication (took several months to find the one for her) but that was not the cause for her acting out. I would not jump to the conclusion that your child has a disability because she throws fits - even violent ones. If you are not consistent they will just get worse.

Does any one have some idea to do when she is mean to other kids?

Ya we have someone come community living come to are house and work with her and she also goes to five counties for sign language . She just had her tube but in like 2 weeks ago but they said there was hardly any fluid in her left to make as much hear lost has she had so we are goin to meet the doctor again to see whats going to happen next .

My daughter also had "hearing loss" when she was about 2 years old. She had chronic ear infections and we went with the tubes, plus removing her adenoids (because I myself had severe chronic adenoid infection as a child, and her Ears-Nose-Throat specialist recommended it be done at the same time rather than possibly as a separate surgery later).

I have never regretted the surgery. (I will say that my daughter's pediatrician advocated against the adenoid removal, citing the fact that adenoids can grow back.)

As she was starting to speak, before the surgery, I noticed she could not reproduce a "hard" consonant sound such as in "can" or "grass". I watched her grow more and more frustrated with trying to communicate through speech - not even I could understand her words. She quickly reverted to using gestures and "grunts" to communicate, and I knew there was a problem. Of course, she could not communicate verbally at all with other kids - or their parents.

After her surgery, I worked with her - VERY gently - to re-learn how to say all the words that begin with "hard" consonants. I made it a game that we played in the car, and she thought it was funny. I figured that if that didn't work I would still have time to get her into speech therapy well before Kindergarten.

I agree with MSMomm. Your daughter is trying to speak what she hears - but what she hears may not be understandable to everyone else. And she's 2 years old - an age in which she will extend her boundaries and test your limits. The advice MSMomm gave about discipline is exactly what I did - very successfully - with my own daughter, so I won't repeat it here.

Good luck, and let us know how you and your daughter are doing!

From your last post, it sounds like your daughter is reacting the way she does because she cannot hear well. The hearing loss is also the contributing factor to her speech problem. She can't hear well when someone speaks to her, therefore she can't speak back correctly.

Since your daughter has a tube in her ear already, she must have seen an ENT specialist. How long ago was the tube put in her ear? Usually, tubes will fall out within six months to a year, depending on how fast a child's ear canal grows. It may be possible the tube has fallen out.

You also said that she doesn't have a tube in her right ear, because the doctor couldn't get a tube in. I don't know that that's a final reason for not dealing with your daughter's hearing problem. I would suggest that you make another appointment with the ENT specialist to discuss your daughter's ongoing hearing problem.

When you speak to your daughter, does she make eye contact with you? If she can't hear you, or hear well, she's frustrated because she doesn't understand why you're giving her a time out. It's obvious time outs aren't working for her, and for you.

When you need to discipline her, come down to her eye level and get her attention. Hold her head (gently) so that she is looking right at you. Give a short command for her to stop doing what she is doing. If she starts to try to hit you or push away, give her a firm hug until she calms down. As suggested above, try to have her sit on your lap to help her calm down.

Age two is a very difficult age for children, especially for those with added issues, like your daughter's. I know it can be frustrating, but remember, your daughter is frustrated as well, since she can't hear well and cannot communicate her feelings well.

Please have your daughter see her doctor and ear specialist again.

Is she receiving treatment for her speech and hearing issues? Have you tried learning and teaching her sign language? There are videos now for teaching sign language to tots. she needs to learn to communicate.

Is your daughter in pain?

Have you gone to another doctor for a second opinion?

My oldest has hearing problems, too, and he used to hurt himself, mostly when tired though.

The key is going to be to get your daughter communicating. Most of her "issues" are probably due to not being able to express herself, and thus getting incredibly upset. If she can talk at all, try to get her to use her words. CALMLY get down to her level and speak to her.

If you haven't already, get her into speech therapy. A good therapist will help her learn to use the voice she has. Also, try teaching her sign language--it will help her be able to communicate her wants.

Have you talked to anyone with the Shriners or the Scottish Rite? The Scottish Rite is sort of a division of the Shriners, and they deal directly, and exclusively, with children who have hearing problems. They may be able to help her out more, including therapy, fitting her with hearing aids (if they'll help), etc.

she has speech problems and hearin loss . They tell me to put her on time out but it does work

What did the doctor recommend you do when your daughter hurts herself?

Also, what specifically are your daughter's learning problems? Who evaluated her? How long ago was she evaluated?

No we have always had trouble with her but seem like nothing work with her.

She does havin learn problem but they say she is not autistic because they said she is to social but i had some call hellp when i was caring her about alot of kids have problems when there mom has this . She has tube in her left ear but not right because they could not get one in there .

Ya my daughter has been through all that she has been to see ever doctor u can think of

The first thing to do is discuss your daughter with her pediatrician and have the doctor examine her thoroughly. Sometimes there is a simple physical problem, like recurrent ear aches that cause a child pain and frustration. A 2 year old may not be able to indicate the problem, or may just assume that everyone's ears or tummys hurt, for example.

I like to recommend the book "Raising Your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka for families with ornery kids.

Your right that time outs just don't work for some kids. One alternative is a "time in". Instead of banishing the child to another area, insist that the child stay with you. You might have her sit next to you for the amount of time, or sit in your lap.

Has your daughter always been difficult? Has there been a change? Has she always been with you or has she been adopted? Sometimes kids from an institutional setting will bang their heads on the wall and otherwise try to hurt themselves.

Does she have problems when she's over stimulated?

You should have your daughter seen by her pediatrician. Explain to her doctor what she does to herself and others. A child who hurts themselves is serious. It may be that she is beginning to show autistic tendencies by hurting herself and others. Self-inflicted pain is not uncommon in children with autism.

Has your daughter had many ear infections? Even if she hasn't, you may want to have her hearing checked by an ear, nose and throat (ENT) specialist. If your daughter cannot hear you clearly, her frustration builds and she starts hurting herself.

How is her speech? Does she express to you her needs (like "water please")?

Please give a little more information so we have a better picture of your daughter's actions.