What do you do when your child hates school

My daughter has hated school since the 1st grade she is currently in the 4th grade. She has anxiety attacks almost nightly about going to school, she sleeps restlessly night that there is school. When I asked what the problem is she just says it is boring and there is no point to school. She is an B student with the exception of math in which she receives a C average. She tells me that the teacher is pushing her hard to finish her work and she is always last. She reports teasing and bullying from kids. I am up for some advice because I am ready to home school my daughter soon.

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Thank You!!! I wish the school would take a serious look at the bullying issue instead of pretending that it is not there. I just plan on any chance I get to go into this classroom I plan on being there. There more my daughter talks the more I understand... she made a comment last evening that she needed new school supplies like markers ad scissors and I brought all those things for her and extra ones and they are gone because the kids BORROW her things and don't give them back. They basically use her, but because she quiet and not a behavior problem the school assumes she is fine when she really is not. It is sad to know that every morning I am sending her to war zone. I really don't have any answers, we don't have any other private schools around our area. My biggest fear will come when she is in 7th grade when she has to go into the Jr High School which is 7-8th grade and there is 1600 kids. Yes 1600 kids in one building. I keep thinking home schooling is my only option. Thanks again for comment.

My heart goes out to you skatingmom as I am dealing with the exact same issue already with my 1st grade daughter. I would like to do something about it NOW before it gets any worse. This topic hits really close to home for me as I, like your daughter hated elementary school when I was little due to being a Caucasian in an predominantly African American school. However, this is not the issue that could possibly be causing my daughter's dislike for school. I have read through all the posters who have answered and I think I will try my best to volunteer as much as possible. Good luck with that champion of a daughter of yours. I wish public schools would address the bullying with the same vigilance that they due for their fund raisers, tardiness, & absenteeism.

Something is happening to her at school. get to the bottom of it ASAP.

That is the only way to get a true picture of what is going on. Be involved. I wish more parents had the chance to volunteer and see the REAL PICTURE of what happens through their children's school day. I gaurantee you things would be much better for the kids with more parent involvement in the classroom for that reason alone! Good luck to you guys.

Hi,I have gone through samething with my 13 year old daughter.I believe it has to do with being so shy.I struggled with schools since the 2nd grade.I have put her in Connectons Academy and I will let you know how she does.I know she was in band,cheerleader,nordic cross country skier,then she gave up and fought me and her dad every day ,she hated school.

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