What do I do about older kids calling my 6 year old son gay?

At our apts there are a few teenage boys who are telling the other kids that my 6 yr old son is gay. He is close friends with another little 6yr old boy and for some reason these older kids are targeting these 2 youngsters. I have personally talked with the main instigators mother and to him on 2 different occasions and it's still happening. He is not only calling my son names but making up homosexual themed stories and telling them to the other children. I am at a loss how to handle this civily. Is there anything I can do legally?

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Listen I'm gay and live in the dirty south, not the most safe place but whatever.

If bothers your son do something, if you confront the instigator you are giving him ammunition cause he now knows that he is having an effect and he will do it more.

No person likes having their child gay, even if it is true, ask my mom (lol).

I do not suggest you to take action, unless your child shows mental scars or physical. These kids are after a cheap laugh and there is no reason to call a local militant group or law firm over this.

People are going to call your kid names no matter what. Its apart of growing up, and it helps build tolerance for others stupidity.

Well i know as a parent, this is very upsetting to you. I would talk to your son like everyone else has advised you too, and let him know their bullies, which I'm sure you have already. My son is 7 and I know he gets upset over a child sticking their tongue out at him.I would make a special point to stay by your son's side when there's a chance theses boy's may be around. Kids are less likely to say things when a parent is present.As far as stopping them from saying theses things, well I don't know if you can do anything legally, and I'm shocked that you didn't get any results out of talking to the parents. I would keep on talking with the parents, I have a feeling that's were the problem lies anyway. Good Luck

nowadays, teenage kids say that alot, but doesnt mean the way the word means.
"your gay" means your stupid, your dumb, and etc. if the other parnents wont do anything about it. you should speak with your child about that they dont mean what they are really saying.

If it is bothering your son and his friend, you should develop some strategies to help them deal with the situation when it comes up. Like Eccentric said, I think ignoring is the best strategy. Talk to your son about walking away from the bullies when they approach. Teach him the importance of not engaging with them. Hopefully they'll end up being bored and will move on!

Perhaps file a harassment charge with the local police department. I had a similar situation and the child was supposed to be a friend to my child. This girl was name calling, bullying and constantly causing us problems. My child went to the school guidance counselor every time she was bothered in school and outside of school I will not allow there to be a problem. Good Luck!!!!!

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