What more can I do? The teacher is calling me all the time and saying my daughter isn't staying focus.

For the past 2 years my daughter has been an all A's student and I changed her to a school that has the IB program. Weel, to make a long story short she has a teacher that hs been teaching for 2 years but, is always calling to let me know my daughter isn't staying focus in class and that she has a behavior problem. Well, after all the call from the the teacher I contact the GC myself. I felt that if it was such a HUGE problem that the situation would have been handled better. I am grasping for air on this situation I feel that I made a bad mistake changing my daughter school. Please HELP! us.

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hi, request to school the program F.B.A. FUNCTIONAL BEHAVIOR ASSESSMENT. but you need to have an evaluation that she has ADHD, request an IEP ASAP. to discuss the situation, do not let the teachers punished you daughter without giving you any information of what is the situation. after me going so much and complain with the principal and I even sent an E-Mail to the school district last week they gave my son the program. after the evaluation the results were that the main problem was not my son, IT'S HIS TEACHERS, request permition to observe the classroom for a day. tell the doctor what the school is doing to your daughter.. fight for her rights, her education is very important and now is the time she needs the most attention and support. I am struggling with my 7 years old boy too with L/D (dyslexia - APD - ADD & HEARING LOSS) the future of my kids depends on me!!! therefore i will fight for their rights!! FOR A GOOD EDUCATION ! today has being a rough day for me at school. but i conquered what I was requesting! ..good luck and don't give up..

She may be having difficulty adjusting, but you may want to consider having her evaluated for ADHD, just as an added measure. Though, it is odd she is just now exhibiting these behaviors. I had the same problem with my son, who is finishing the 2nd grade. I had him evaluated, and he does have ADHD, but I will not put him on medication. His first grade teacher was constantly sending home letters and making phone calls saying my son was misbehaving in class and more or less labeled him a problem child. She also made him eat silent lunch many days and excluded him from several class parties. She was not a good communicator as I wasn't aware of most of these punishments until the school year was almost over. Make sure your child is not discrminiated against for something she may not have much control over.....

1. I've seen that most students with attention problems are simply not getting enough sleep. Children in elementary school actually need 14 hours of sleep a night. That seems like a lot but it's important for brain development and functioning well in school. Most students only get 6-8 hours a night.
2. Volunteer as much as possible in your daughter's class -- making copies, running errands, etc. This can actually have an impact on how your daughter's teacher treats her.

I think you did the right thing with your child's education. Relax if you can and schedule another meeting with the teacher. Try to have an open mind and seek ways with the teacher/daughter on how to solve this problem. If the above does not work, speak with the principal, or the teacher's head of the department, or someone the teacher respects.

Yes, some students this age and their parents struggle to respect young teachers or teachers with a little experience, but a higher education. Also, these young teachers pay back by using their assigned authority to make life less comfortable for these students/parents. Two wrong cannot make a right! So as a parent I choose to be very careful (rarely mean) when I am dealing with my children's teachers, doctors, Sunday school teachers, coach, babysitter, and so on.

Last, the education of your child is very important and she needs to follow the rules at "home" and school.

Good luck and happy holidays!

We all want our children to succeed in life, to be happy successful and a productive part of society. That is the American dream we as parent have for our children. But have you seriously talked with your daughter, maybe she is not happy there, she probably misses her friends, her teachers, and her comfort zone. Or maybe shes always had the focus issues, only the teacher at the first school didn't make such a big deal of it you know to call you every day. I'll be honest with you I'd get tired of hearing the teacher complain day after day, I'd probably stop answering the phone. Does your daughter know that the teacher is calling you and telling you about her behavior? If so, what does she say?

It's understandable that your daughter's grades may have slipped a bit, since she's being challenged more. However, she may be acting out in class to make up for the difficulty. It doesn't help that the teacher is feeling overwhelmed and focusing her feelings onto you and your daughter.

Does the teacher have an assistant in her classroom? If possible, maybe you can volunteer to "help out" in her classroom. Should you volunteer, make it clear to the teacher that you're not there to just "take care" of your daughter, but to assist with all the kids.

Also, when the teacher calls you to talk about your daughter, try to find a way to redirect her from "complaining" to exchanging positive ideas and ways to help her help your daughter.

Healthy11 as well as sbozarth23 has asked good questions. Before you make any haste decision I would look at what both have asked you here. I do have another question for you. If your daughter is older could she be interested in a boy witch would make her not focus on school work?

healthy11 has asked some good questions. Another question I have is has something happened at home recently? It just seems odd that her behavior would change so drastically. What does the teacher feel she is going to accomplish by badgering you?

My daughter is 7 yrs old and I have thought about changing her back to the other school but the work was so easy that she needed more the IB program is wonderful but now is a B's C's student. I want her to be successful in school but I feel alot if this has to do with the teacher being so new and just not a right fit for my daughter. She isn't enocouraging nor motivalional she calls me like what can she do. When I meet her on Back to School Night the lady said not one good thing about my daughter basically to let me know she is having to redirect her alot.

How old is your daughter/what grade? It's unusual for an older student to suddenly experience problems with focusing and behavior, although if she's somehow feeling "overwhelmed" with much tougher IB academics, and she doesn't have any "support group" of friends in the new school, then it's understandable she could be having some trouble adjusting. Have you asked your daughter directly about the situation, and asked her what she thinks could help? Is switching back to the old school even an option?

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