I know it's very important for you and your child to understand her disorder but I think sometimes their hearing it all the time becomes a ticket to misbehave or disobey not to say your child doesn't have legitamate learning problems; just saying don't let your child hear it all the time.

The true answer is prayer and change within yourself towards God . When you come closer and rely more on Him, THEN HE WILL HONOR YOUR REQUESTS. I'm not saying to throw it all in God's lap because their are things YOU must do as a parent, but the most important thing you can do for your children is YOUR decision to get closer to Him no matter what the opposition may be.

You need to help your child, be patient, what is more important, is to find help for her so she can be happy and not get frustrated with doing her homework, ask her doctor how can you help her out in any way.

You need to get your child help as soon as possible. There's a lot you can do, but above all be patient. Get on-line the computer can help you find just about anything you need. If your staped for money swallow that pride and contact your child's school they have programs that will help. It's going to take a lot of help, but, you can do it, and in a few years your child will appreciate it all the more.

I HAVE ASBERGERS AUSTISM AND I NEED A LOT OF POSTIVE FEED BACK.

I ASK YOU TO SHOW AND TELL HOW GREAT SHE IS

I noticed you're in the far NW suburban Chicago area...I don't know if there's an active Chadd chapter by you (maybe in Crystal Lake, or Mc Henry, or St. Charles?) but I think you'd find a great deal of good information and support if you were able to network with other parents who have ADHD children...I attend CHADD meetings in Buffalo Grove, and the resources shared over the years have been invaluable.
www.chadd.org and www.help4adhd.org

I was wondering how long you daughter has been on this particular medication, and dose. Sometimes medications have to be adjusted or even changed. Is she getting her work done in school? Another thought, it sounds like she is struggling with her writing assignments. Does she have a processing issue in reading and or writing. In addition to idea generation, often ADHD children have difficulty seizing up a paper for word and letter placement - and difficulty with spatial relationships. Many are dysgraphic. Has the IEP team ever discussed her writing? OT services can really help a child with this difficulty. Even though it seems really simple to copy down a couple of definitions - a child with this disability can feel overwhelmed with writing. A good example of what it feels like from their end..... imagine having to wear a pair of mittens and being asked to sort and organize pieces of paper. The brain knows what to do, but you have no ability to maneuver your fingers. This is the body that an LD child lives in. They don't like it.
They are not being bad. If you feel they are being difficult - yes they are - because they fear failure.
I know it is difficult to always know how to help an LD child. It can be frustrating when seemingly small simple tasks consume an entire evening. It is difficult to step back and approach your child with praise and encouragement to approach an assignment - when you fear failure in not being able to help your child.
Talk to the teacher, get input from school, and talk to the doctor. Teachers do not want homework assignments to turn into an evening of fighting with your child. Some teachers ask that a child work on an assignment for a period of time. If the child is unable to complete it, they ask the parent to write a note that the student devoted time to homework.
If your child is really having that much difficulty - the teacher needs to know this information so she can appropriately address learning needs. Her IEP might need some changes to reflect more current needs. She might need additonal testing and a re-evaluation.Each year the amount of work a child receives increases. The need for organization, the ability to transition from subject to subject, transcribing, writing, intensifies greatly. Her educational plan will need to be modified so that she does not become overwhelmed.
Also - school is work for a child. Between school and homework - you don't want your child to feel like she is having a endless day. She needs time to recharge, be with family and friends. She needs a balance in her day . She needs to feel loved and accepted regardless of her ability to do school work! She needs to know you are there to support and guide her.
You also need a break from being the homework warden! Take care, and the best of luck to you!

I wrote this question in the mist of a homework breakdown. After she finally finished it she was fine and happy and her usual jovial self. Thankyou for your suggestions. I do agree I need to talk with her teachers.

She is in a LD program and has a IEP. She does not have a great amount of homework. It is usally a f ew questions in 1 or 2 subjects. If she would do it and do it neatly she could easily get A's. She is taking vyvanse

I think it might help to contact her teacher and let her know about the struggles your daughter is experiencing with her homework. Is she completing her work in school? Sometimes ADHD kids just burn out after a long day at school - and even if they are medicated - often the medicine has lost most of its effectiveness. If this is the case the doctor can adjust her dose. This is not uncommon for children with ADHD.
If you daughter does not have and IEP or 504 plan - now is a good time to ask for a special education evaluation. If your daughter already has one - it would be helpful to let the Child Study team know that she needs a modified work load. Between the doctor and the school you should be able to work this out.
Best of luck!

Does she have an IEP or 504 plan? What sort of treatment is she getting for her ADHD? How well does the school seem to understand ADHD?

I would take her word that the work is too hard. It probably needs to be tackled on two fronts.

One is to negotiate accommodations at the school such as reduced homework load, and/or extra help. As the work gets more complex and teachers expect more independence, her limit may be pushed more. She begins to give up before even trying.

You can try all the usual things like reducing distractions, keeping strict routines, incentive systems, etc. But if you're already doing all those things and they're just not working, then the problem needs to be tackled at the assignment end.

The other front is to revisit her doctor. As she grows, and hormones kick in, her prescription may need adjustment.