My 7th grader is refusing to do home work. How do I help her to want to do it?

She insists her homework is too hard and she can't do it. What she does get done is sloppy and misspelled. She has ADHD and I know it hard for her to concentrate. She won't do even the simplest of assignments like copy a definition.

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When she first arrives home from school she should get a break. Possibly a healthy snack if she will go for that. Give her some time to relax and give her brain a rest from the school day. Then I would make a rule (maybe written contract that she signs) of a certain time that she will do her homework each day. I would remind her daily about 15 minutes before "homework time" so that she knows to wrap up whatever she's doing and to get ready for homework. Do the expected things such as a quiet and well lit area for her. If she is not using her time wisely to get the work done or if refuses to try to do it then she would be aware of the consequences of her decisions. She would be grounded or maybe something taken away that she really likes. The punishment needs to be something that will increase her motivation to do her work. Hope this helps. Also, if she follows thru and does it then make sure to express how proud you are of her and give positive reinforcement.

I know it's very important for you and your child to understand her disorder but I think sometimes their hearing it all the time becomes a ticket to misbehave or disobey not to say your child doesn't have legitamate learning problems; just saying don't let your child hear it all the time.

The true answer is prayer and change within yourself towards God . When you come closer and rely more on Him, THEN HE WILL HONOR YOUR REQUESTS. I'm not saying to throw it all in God's lap because their are things YOU must do as a parent, but the most important thing you can do for your children is YOUR decision to get closer to Him no matter what the opposition may be.

You need to help your child, be patient, what is more important, is to find help for her so she can be happy and not get frustrated with doing her homework, ask her doctor how can you help her out in any way.

You need to get your child help as soon as possible. There's a lot you can do, but above all be patient. Get on-line the computer can help you find just about anything you need. If your staped for money swallow that pride and contact your child's school they have programs that will help. It's going to take a lot of help, but, you can do it, and in a few years your child will appreciate it all the more.

I HAVE ASBERGERS AUSTISM AND I NEED A LOT OF POSTIVE FEED BACK.

I ASK YOU TO SHOW AND TELL HOW GREAT SHE IS

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