I need some advice for a friend on what steps to take involving a lynching on her daughter recently at school.

My dear friends daughter goes to Middle School, this past Friday she was approached by 3 boys trying to do inappropriate things to her, when she pushed one of them away all three jumped on her. From her neck down she is covered black and blue with briuses, while they proceeded to hold her in the office and her mother outside the three boys were allowed to get on their bus and proceed home. I really do not think that any of this is right, and considering that there is an officer of the law at this school why were any of the boys allowed to leave should there not have been criminal charges filed since lynching is punishiable by law? Someone please help!

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Clockgirl12-
Is that from "shop around the corner" ???-OK-I grew up with sisters...
I used to instruct rape prevention classes-and you are right on the money-
More often than not-if the intended target fights back-the assailant will leave in search of an easier target. Also tests have shown that survivors who fought back are more resilient in both their emotional and physical recovery. I don’t know if it’s due to the person’s constitution before the crime or not.
There are experts who suggest 2 or as high as 3 or more out of every 5 girls will experience some sort of sexual abuse by the time they are in college.
As a society we downgrade bullying and other acts with a, “they’re just kids” or “it’s part of growing up,” theory. So when three boys attack a young girl it’s not granted the same significance (read: she’s not as valued) as an adult victim. This is especially so with anything that happens on school property. It’s my opinion that this is due to a false sense of security, our willingness to believe that school is the one place where our children are most valued and protected. We also devalue the victim. This is especially true with women’s reactions to victims of sexual abuse. Psychologists theorize this is a reaction of women to preserve their own sense of security; a kind of, “it couldn’t happen to me but happened to her only because…”
It’s time to change- it’s time to stop allowing those who are most significant to our lives and society (women and children) to those most abused. Victims aren’t chosen by assailants- they are chosen by society.

We finally had some kind of outcome on this situation the boys are still going through the courtv systems for assault and some other charges, but because her daughter fought back she ended up getting 80 hours of community service and suspended from school as well, I do not agree with any of the punishment toward her, I mean are we telling our kids if people jump on you just lay there and take it so you don't get into any trouble? I was taught to protect yourself I'm not sure about anyone else!

i agree with all these posts and take their advise and stand up for our kids noone else will we have to keep our kids safe we are the only ones who really care about our kids

I hope a written report was filed at the time, and pic were taken of the bruises. Without the two, you will have no case! Whether or not school took any action, I believe this was assault, and the parents should've taken the girl to the hospital, and should've had the police involved at the time! I hope the little girl is doing better...I cant imagine how traumatic that could be for a middle schooler!

Did your friend find out why this happened in the first place?

"From her neck down she is covered black and blue with briuses,"?? That's assault and battery get a lawyer and go to the police before these bullys turn into rapists.

The school will not do anything. Bad publicity and the principal and other administrators don't need it in the "permanent files." The parents need to go the police and then to a lawyer. Keep the doctors records and get the girl to a therapist. It wasn't a lynching-you need a rope for that-but it was sexual assault and the school and the boys and every other child and adult in the school, district and town needs to know it won't be tolerated. Good luck-the school will no doubt blame the victim-it's going to be hard.

Bravo! I so agree!!

debrasuefitzge** :) Thank you. Take a stand, we all know this has been going on for to long now. Parents want to put their child/children in another school? Why? Why should you have to run and hide? Take back your schools, community. Your child has a right to a safe school enviroment, and should not feel he or she doesn't want to go to school because of retribution. Like I've stated in other posts here. I didn't care who you were, how much $ you had or your title..if you as a parent, teacher, pupil, or even the school superintendant, if I saw you doing something agains school policy I turned you in. Yep even the school superintendant drove past the bus with it's lights flashing, the stop sign open...I had the bus driver call the police and yes, he did get a ticket for $300.00, I was doing my job. Seems that there are so many parents who are afraid to step on toes, what are you afraid of, doing what is right? Be the leader, not the follower, but follow the one who will break down walls to take care of your children.

i agree with winetuscany,take this school and the parents court.this is a criminal matter,and your daughter has been assaulted,they need to pay for what this kids, has did to your kid.

I am so sorry this happened. Middle school and people think children are still little angels..WAKE UP!!!..get restitution for that little girl. Take the school and parents to court.

If it were my child and the school took no action against the children who assulted my child, I would notify the police right there in the office right infront the administration and everyone and file a police report. The school is responsible for your child from the time they set foot on campus to the time they enter their home at the end of the day. I would also consider speaking with an attorney to be advised what action should be taken against the school for letting the 3 boys just walk away from the crime they committed as well as the parents of the boys who committed the crime. That is my advise to your friend(s). Please tell your friend(s) to hang in there and that I hope their daughter is ok.

What do you mean by lynching? Did they put a noose around her neck and hang her? Definately call the police and file a report.

I hope that the girl was taken to a doctor/hospital that day for documentation of her injuries. If not, do it now. Was any incident report completed at the school? It is imperative that a written record of the incident be made, and I concur twith trooper that a police report should be filed. I am not clear if you're saying that the police officer at the school didn't think charges were warranted, or exactly what happened, but I would definitely contact the police department and go to the school officer's supervisor for an explanation.
There should be a school district bullying policy in the parent handbook, and I'd be curious what it says about mandatory suspensions for the offenders, etc.
You might find someone to address your legal questions on www.lawguru.com

Contact the police and file a report! This is a criminal matter. Your daughter has been assaulted.

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