Yes my son is a hockey player. At age 4 they wanted to put him on ADHD drugs. They told me he was borderline, instead I put him in any sports possible. He has been hanging out with a few different boys, one that was just kicked off the hockey team for the year. Over the last week things have been going better. We see a new Pyshcologist-man on friday. I am crossing my fingers. Thank you all for all the wonderful support and assistance.

I see that your name is hockeymom. By chance is your son playing hockey? If so, there is a very fine line in hockey as it could be an aggressive violent sport.

If he is playing, maybe thats something you can withhold from him until his behavior is better.

Heres a thought - have you figured out if someone is bullying him?

I like healthy11 advises, they are very helpful.

A recent functional MRI study has revealed differences in the brains of bullies versus more empathetic children: news.uchicago.edu/news.php?asset_id=1477

The fact is that some kids do seem to need more help in redirecting their attention away from negative influences and finding more positive ways to act. If the counselor that your son has seen hasn't helped, I would urge you to try to try another. For adolescent boys, I think it's especially beneficial if you can find a male therapist, because it's easier for them to "relate" and develop a working relationship.
As other posters have said, I'd also urge you to consult with a child or adolescent psychiatrist, as they are doctors who specialize in mental health conditions, and medication may be also be helpful to get his anger and rage under control, before he ends up as an adult with a criminal record.

What is the counselors read on your son??
If this behavior is new - you need to consider the possibility of drugs. You might take you son to the pediatrician and have a drug and alcohol screen. At least you will no what to rule in and rule out!
Good luck to you. Please stay in touch.

Hello,
I feel we as parents are our childrens friends first no matter what. I have learned that through out the years and asking my teens for guidance. counseling was the best thing but first you as the parent can get into your childs head. have him write his feelings in a keepsake box and when you and your child are ready to talk about it open the box. There is so much to our children/teens that we can make changes and gain a new son/daughter. Personal experience..

Good Luck

Check it out what healthy11 advised ON TROUBLE KID NEEDS HELP , you might find it very helpful.

I do agree with everyone, one thing though has not be mention or rather a couple of things, change in friends or group of friends, grades dropping, are his buddies doing drugs?? You never really said "how old he is??" Starting 9 th grade is VERY hard, on a boy..

Counseling should help, just don't give up on him. It's tough on everyone involved, but he needs you right now, even if it seems he's pushing away. Teens have a tendency to push feelings inside and try to ignore them, but that tactic doesn't work forever. You may want to talk to his teachers, as well. Ask how his grades are,

The important thing is, don't give up on him. Get him to talk to you, and this is sometimes the difficult part.

My daughter was showing attitude and getting upset each time we tell her that she can't expend a lot of time in the computer, I have to put a stop to this, I tried to scare her by telling that if she continues with this, I will have to send her to boot camp, I probably would have send her if she continued with this attitude, but thanks God, she stopped, I believed, that she got scared about it and that is why she stopped, now she is completely another person, she seems more happy and doing other things away from the computer, I believe that chatting thru the computer got her more distant from us and less communicative. I think you need to find out the root of the problem as tjlove said, for mine, was that we let her too much time on the computer chatting with people from a certain game and that was only her world, but for you, is another thing, find the problem of your child, if possible, get help from the counselors that are treating your child, ask them, what else you can do to help your child, if there is a problem regarding his aggressive behavior, where he can be directed for help, so he can be able to control it.

I have told him this will not be tolerated, doesn't seem to help. I contacted the local police to see if there is outlets for this or maybe scare the daylights out of him by showing him juvenile detention centers. I wish there was more that would help...

Putting him in counseling was a good idea. It's important to find out the root of the problem and hopefully counseling will help bring that out.
It sounds like this kind of aggressive behavior isn't normal for him. Has something changed in his life recently?

You will need to have a serious conversation with your child and tell him that is totally bad what he is doing and that is not acceptable in any way. You did the right thing in putting him in counseling, keep it that way, this will help him in some way. Just make it clear to him that you will not tolerate him bulling other kids.