leftovers:

I actually do agree with you. My son has always loved and adjusted to school fine. When he started kinder at his old school he totally did not want to go but he of course went and loved it. The issue is more than about my son doesn't like the school. The curriculum which is suppose to be better than the old school seems behind what he was doing, I my self don't care for the teacher so I took his dad up there to see what he thought and its hard to describe but its like she smiles and is nice but you can tell her heart isn't in teaching kinders. Its like she is just there and kids can sense that. Well his dad actually felt the same way so we have discussed switching teachers. I do plan to speak to the principle this week and all last week the teacher wasn't even there. Then I actually know someone whom had this teacher for their daughter and they said she really isn't patient and she is not the worse teacher nor the best. I know he will have not so great teachers throughout the years but to me the kinder experience is different and they need a nuturing environment with a caring teacher. I am waiting to see how well he adjust and I am calmer about the situation and am looking at alternatives to this school district. It still upsets me when everyday he does not want to go and even tries to tell me he is sick just to not go! I do occasionally go up there at luch and he seems to play with kids on the playground but is always sitting alone when I come. He is an outgoing kid so I am for now waiting but researching other options. But he is 5 and I am not sure he really can expalin exactly what he doesn't like about the school. We explained making friends takes time and I think its mostly the teacher whom isn't nearly as caring or nuturing as his last. I don't care what anyoine says you need that when you are 5 yr old and in all day kinder! I appreciate all replies!!!

Well Katinka,
I didn't tell my son he had to wait until x-mas to see if he was still unhappy, that's silly. And when I moved my son to a new preschool after x-mas, he never cried to leave or not go again. He was perfectly happy and loved school again. Just like hillmom3's son was in his first school. If a child loved school once and now doesn't, he's trying to tell you something. If he doesn't feel comfortable there after a bit of time, well....I say listen to him. My life sure got easier after I moved my son to a more nurturing pre-school, because my son was happy at school. I'm certainly not one of those Mom's that brings my child home because he cried when I was trying to drop him off at school. I totally get that if you give into these fits at the moment, then they'll be repeated. Kids will always remember that you caved once and they will cry in hopes of that happening again. My advice is suggested assuming that this senario did not take place.

What does he do at the next school? and the next? and the next? With a pattern like this, he would be learning to get exactly what he wants...no matter the consequence to anyone else. Obviously, there could be problems...but the solution is not to run/walk away from them. "Mom, I'm unhappy"..."ok...if you're not happy by Xmas...you can have your way"...I think this is an unhelpful scenario to teach a child anything except manipulation.

I would talk to the teacher and then give him time, say until x-mas. If he's still unhappy by x-mas, he's trying to tell you something! Move him to another school.
I say this from experience! Trust your children.

My daughther suffered the same .I spoke to the class teacher and the Principal.They reached out to help and made my daughter feel special

Hello!
I'm so sorry you are faced with this adjustment for both you and your son. The first thing to do is gather your own courage...be strong, happy, confident and SHOW your son what adjustments are like. He will sense your fears, unhappiness and if he sees your tears...He will certainly know there is 'something wrong' here. It has been suggested that you make an appointment with the Administrator...to share your concerns. This is always an excellent step...IF you feel you can't accomplish this with the teacher. The teacher is, indeed, the place to start, but if you need/want more help...don't hesitate to ask for another person from the staff at the school to assist you. Keep reinforcing to your son...that each day changes...it makes us afraid when we don't know WHAT to do and how things are done. Try to encourage him to think 'happily' about gaining new friends and doing new things. You have a wonderful opportunity to teach positive attitudes...It does take time...but it is up to you to lead the way.
It is great that you have asked for help here!!

Have you tried scheduling a sit-down with your son's teacher to try and find out more about him/her (the teacher, I mean)? Transferring to a new school can be daunting, but it doesn't have to be. If you work outside the home, finding time to visit your son's school can be nearly impossible. Maybe having dad go see what's happening and then giving you the information, might be an option. I don't know. It does take time to adjust and eventually things will work out. Maybe talking to the principal will do some good. If you need more one on one, please add me as a friend and we can go from there. Donna

Please contact the teacher and share these concerns.
A move, new house, new school, new friends is tremendously stressful - especially for a young child.
Talk to the teacher to see how she help your child with this transition.
I wish you all the best!