My 13yr old son is being penalized for defending himself after walking away from a kid teasing him

My opinion is not politically correct, but I'll share it anyway ... Tell your son what I told mine recently, in a similar situation:

"It's better to find a way to avoid physical aggression. You don't want to lower yourself to the bully's level. HOWEVER, if you are confronted with physcial force (don't YOU ever be the one to strike first!) and there is no adult or anyone else to help, and you've tried everything else you could reasonably try ... use only as much physcial force in response as you need to get the job done. Once the bully stops, YOU stop and walk away. Tell an adult what as soon as possible and let them take it from there."

Frankly, if I were you, I would also immediately file charges of assault and battery against the bully with the police, and follow up with the school as well. Don't let your son become further victimized! Bullies often (but not always) learn to be bullies from behaviors modeled by their own parents, so don't expect those parents to respond reasonably. Don't expect the school staff to be much help, either, but INSIST UPON IT ANYWAY! Be clear with them, the bully's parents, and the police that your son was bullied without provocation, that he was defending himself from assault and battery (which schools don't allow, but which is a Constitutional 2nd Amendment right, nonetheless),and that you will stand your ground and behind your son to the full extent of the law. Also, be clear that you expect no further bullying of your son from this or any OTHER kid, or there will be He** to pay!

My prayers and best wishes for your son and you ... I hope all goes well.

i agree with deborahhamilto,if a child tells a parent they are being bullied then the parent should go to the school and find out whats going on.when my daughter came home and had a black eye and said this girl was bullying her i went right to the school and demanded action to be taking for this behavier.and now this girl doesnt bother my girl anymore.

I feel that if anybody child come home and let their parents know that they are being bullied at school the parents should go to the school and talk with the teachers and school staff and get the bully parents and have a meeting.if nothing get solve or nobody won't to listen then it's time to take some ACTION ON SOMEBODYS ***,AND WE CAN HAVE A GOOD TIME THE WHOLE FAMILY CAN COME AND WE ALL CAN HAVE A FIGHTING PARTY.and the best family win,what about a trophy to the best family.LOL,LOL,LOL.this is the way I would handle it UNCONDITIONALY.

i have the same proble my 13 yr old got sup for aday
because he told everyone that the kid was messing with him so when the kid hit he had enough and hit him back so he got a day off and the other kid got more but if they had have done something before now he would not be in this i think something needs to be done about the staff at our schools when nothing is done before the problem gets this far they're aware of a problem and do nothing to keep it from going anymore