How do I deal with my sons behavior in school?

My son started kindergarten this year in September. They follow a calendar system which is returned home everyday. A smiley face means a good day, a straight face means they had to talk to the child more than once, and a sad face means a bad day all around. The first full week was in September so that is when the calendar system began. He did good for a while, he got a smiley face and a stamp and/or a sticker, then he started getting sad faces for different things mainly talking and disturbing other children in the classroom, once for hitting a child that was hitting him. I even got a phone call home one day, which was a Monday, because he was doing too much talking. After the phone call home, I went to his school for a couple hours. I spoke to his teachers, (he has 2 teachers) to see what they suggested. I have taken things away like toys, or park time, but also rewarded him with treats for being good. He did good this week but Tuesday because they had a field trip. Help me

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A book you may find helpful is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. www.explosivechild.com

my son has a very stable living enviroment, always has.
i have other children and none of them behave like he does. it sometimes amazes me how people are so quick
to ask if something is going on in the home to cause this behavior, or how was his weekend. ask me how was my weekend of having to deal with this or how was my day and the answer will always be the same stressful. i will never and i repeat never give up on my son. i will go to the end of the earth and back to find the help that my son needs to help him become a productive citizen. i appreciate your advice but you should be careful of how you word things especially when you do not know me or my living situation.

our situation seems to be the same. my sons behavioral problems started when he turned 4. my son also finishes his work before the rest of the class, so i asked the teacher to give him harder work and it was the same thing he would finish it or he would become upset that the teacher was giving him more work and would refuse to do it. i thought i had found an after school counseling program that would be able to help him with his emotional outbursts they assured me that they would be able to help, after 2 mths of counseling they kicked him out of the program because of his behavior. i applied for ssi and was turned down because he was able to count from backwards from 5-1
and he recieves good grades but all of his behavioral grades are unsatisfactory. i have reapplied and was still turned down, finally i got a lawyer and after 3 years
of appealing he has a court case next month. i am so scared for my son because i see his behavior as leading
him down one or two paths... dead or in jail. he has no fear of anyone and sometimes i think it is the lil man syndrome, but i pray every night that things will get better and he will make a change for the better. thank you so much for taking the time to respond.

thank you so much for your response. i am currently getting him counseling at murtis taylor.

mesmerized, your post brings up an important point; often, there is a hereditary link in families of children with different health conditions, like bipolar. If treatment for one possible condition, like ADHD, isn't helping or seems to make behaviors even worse, then it's important to look for other explanations. A good site to find out more about bipolar is www.bpkids.org

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