Daughter having hard time adjusting to K. I have lunch w/ her twice a week & was told that's why she is

having a hard time adjusting. She says that K is just too long & by lunch time she really misses me. If I'm not there she cries & if I go then she cries when I leave. The principal has told me to limit my visits and she will be fine, but my daughter begs me to come. They even had posted in their weekly newsletter that parents are welcome for lunch as long as they notify by 9am. Also classroom visits are allowed if asked in advance, but when I asked they said no. Any advice or comments??

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Maybe you could give her a picture of yourself to carry in her pocket and she could look at it everytime she feels like she is missing you. I think you need to not do the luch thing, remember in 1st grade school is all day in kinder its half day unless you have her in a different program. also, show her the clock and what the arms on the clock look like at the time you'll be picking her up. Keep reminding her that she is a big girl and she can get through the day.

Is it you that is having a hard time letting go or is your daughter? I think it is great that you are able to spend time with your child, but you really need to show her how to be an independent person. Maybe instead of coming for lunch, you could set up dinner dates and take her somewhere nice for a special treat. Also, if you want to spend time at school, offer to be a room parent or volunteer to read to the class.

I hate to say it you sound like an absolutely WONDERFUL MOTHER but it might be easier for her to make new friends and socialize with the other children if you didn't come for maybe a week or two. I know it's hard for you and her to let go. But mabey after a week or two when you come back to lunch you'll have alot more to talk about with her and some of her friends it might just make it a little easier.

I think that your spending the time at the school with her is the reason why she cannot adapt to this.. I thought that i was going to go through this with my little one when she started K also the first day of school they didn't even let me come into the school i had to just drop her off and that was it i cried and she was fine and when i picked her up at the end of the day she was happy to see me but she loved her first day and her new Friends she had made and i was never told i can sit with her at lunch if i had know i would have done what you have done but since i didn't i guess it made it alot easier for her. she knows i can come up to the school at anytime but she is ok with this you should try not going there one day maybe she would'nt cry as much and she will adapt to you not coming up there.. you have to let loose soon or she will never be able to adapt with you not being there...

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