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Anonymous September 15, 2008

How do you deal with a teacher that has formed a negative impression of her student

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This student has received negative comments from a certain teacher since school has started. This student is new to this school. This student has always gotten good praise from other teachers; since she has been attending school. This student loves school is has always been willing to help others. This student is a very giving child and loves to help out. I do not understand where the negativity is coming from, but I will pay that teacher/classroom/and prinicple a visit ASAP.
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DeborahHamilto
DeborahHamilto September 28, 2008
I know that if a teacher or any boss,or leader that forms a negative impression of a person before they even get to know them and believe here say,they are a person that is very insecure.It is something about the person that they are jealous of and they know the other person will show them up in public.they are also afraid that the person will get their job,or know more about the subject then they know and make them look like they don't know what they are talking about.this teacher thinks more highly of themselves and they really don't care about their students in my book.this teacher has some serious issues that only Dr.Phil can get out and help this teacher to form a positive impression of their students.I say the negative is inside the teacher and untill the teacher solve her or his issues then they can form a positive impression of their students.
Have you ever heard the saying (To make myself look good I have to keep bashing others down)this is a sad way of thinking.
ultrafelicity
ultrafelicity September 17, 2008
I have a few questions.
Does the school have an atmosphere that has zero tolerance for bullying from student to student, student to teacher, teacher to student?
Is your child's giving nature the "norm" amongst students and faculty at the school?
Is respect, tolerance, sharing, and a sense of community taught as part of the daily routine at the school?
If not, your child may be going against the grain and probably ruffling feathers. S/he is, in fact, probably making the teacher look bad. I know this may sound weird but some teachers are control freaks and if the child is being good it renders them powerless. It's like when you kill someone with kindness, but this is unintentional. And so the teacher projects these feeling of insecurity onto the child in the form of negative comments, jokes, or condescencion. I would make an appointment. But be smooth about it. In this meeting, give a little background about yourself, about the child's previous school, and ask about the child's academic progress, and your expectation from your child and the school.
In the 5th grade, my daughter was one of the smartest kids in her class, but she worked slower than the other children. The teacher tapped on my daughter's forehead with her pointed finger and told her she will always be slow, embarrassing my daughter, as she forced back the tears. When my daughter came home and told me, I was infuriated. I made an appointment to meet with my daughter's teacher, discussing her grades, her time management and the incident that my daughter reported. I was very respectful and cordial while being strong about my concerns as to how my daughter is treated in class. If the teacher treats the child bad, the rest of the class may follow suit. After that meeting, I continued to keep open communication with the teacher. I never heard anything else negative after that. Unfortunately, many teachers forget that, many student come home and tell their parents everything. My daughter is now a sophomore. She is in all honors classes. She still works a little slower than a lot of the kids, but we consistently communicate with the teachers. It shows them that you are a concerned parent who has a vested interest in your child's school life. Good luck and count to ten before you say anything after the teacher may say something you don't agree with. If the problem persists or if you feel that the teacher may feel that you or your son may be overreacting, go to the principal.
hopkinsatl
hopkinsatl September 15, 2008
That would be my first course of action by meeting with the teacher and the student and having an honest conversation about the situation and express your concerns.

If that meeting proves to be unproductive, I would then make your concerns to the principal and if that doesn't work, then have the student placed in another class.

That is disturbing, though, and a bit unprofessional on the teacher's part.

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