what do i do?

my son just started pre-k and has never been in headstart nor daycare. the fisrt day of school i started recieving bad reports that he's not listening but at home he listens . Well i went to his class to observe him on the third day of school and they stated he is not paying attention to the teacher but he was dancing to the theme songs with the other students and i notice if he moved an inch his name was called. i have informed them he has never been in an enviroment like this before. and their response was o.k. we understand. but the next day it is as we never explained to them at all. the forth day i hear from the teacher he needs speacial attention then she will work with him. Then that day he pissed on his self which by the way my son is fully potty trained. haven't pissed on his self since before turning 4 and he sat in his pee for a while based on his stained in his pants was soak. what should i do about this even if i went to the teacher and has talked to the principle. Help?

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First of all, be very careful. The next thing they will try to tell you is that he is ADHD. I don't think he is, I think he is probably going through the stress of a big change in his life. The next step I would take is to report this to the school board and see if they will do anything about it. Make sure you have the teacher's name available and make sure that they understand the circumstances. Pre-K is supposed to be a place that readies your child for school and this is absolutely rediculous behavior on the teacher's part. His accident should have been taken care of immediately and usually they tell you to have a second set of clothes for that anyway.

my son attend a public charter school for pre-k. The classes are from 8:ooam to 3:30pm.Oh! and the preschool programs i don't know about. to bring it to your attention i will be having a meeting with the principle on tuesday at 8:30am. to dicuss why is my son so sad coming home and about how how acts act school. thank you healthy11 for responding to me for help.and yes i work with him at home on school surplise at home. but my son is left handed and he has a hard time cutting with siccors and when i said to the teacher i have left hand siccors for him she rolled her eyes and turned way and said uh! huh! maybe she had a bad day,but i sat in class with my son on thursday and notice how the assitant cater to the girls and not the boys. my son and his little friend were trying there best to cut paper and she congrad all the girls . i watched my son say oh! i did it and she ignored him even when the little boy next to my son asked how do you do this she ignored him so i got up and helped them both. am i wrong for feeling that they are ignoring children that are in school for the first time?

Perhaps maybe this school isn't a 'fit' for him?

Since it IS pre-K it would concern me that they are not more patient, especially since you have explained his background to them.

Having 'accidents' happends to children, especially at that age, they are excited and forget to ask to go to the bathroom.

Is your son attending a public school preschool program? Is it Monday through Friday? How many hours per day? Are there any other preschool program in your area that he can try attending instead?

In my area, many churches and daycare facilities and even the YMCA offer preschool programs that are half-day, and just a couple of days a week. (Tues. & Thurs. for 3-yr-olds, Mon., Wed. & Fri. for the 4-yr-olds.)

If your son truly has never been in any other "group" environment with other children before, where he's being asked to listen to another adult besides "mom" then yes, I expect it will take time to adjust. It's too early to be diagnosing an attention deficit yet. His bathroom accident could have been from stress, or maybe the kids had a "potty break" earlier and he didn't feel like he had to "go" then, but he was afraid to raise his hand to ask to go to the toilet later? I wouldn't worry about a single incident...I'm sure your son isn't the first, nor will he be the last child who has an accident.

If you don't have to have your son in preschool right now, and you decide to keep him at home for another year, I'd strongly encourage you to try and help him by "playing school" for shorter times during the day. Perhaps you can set up a small table area where he has crayons and papers and picture books and you can ask him to sit quietly for 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, and work up to 15 mintues, etc. Have him practice not interrupting you, and raising his hand to ask questions, etc. Be sure he learns his letters and numbers. Read to him, and ask him questions afterwards to build his listening and comprehension skills.

You might find it helpful to join other parents of preschoolers at community.greatschools.net/groups/11534

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