Blue in the face

My son (6) has been in trouble everyday since school started. It is all over his motor mouth! My husband and I have tried various methods to encourage a zipped lip. First we tried positive reinforcement. Come home with good marks for two days earn video game. Come home for five days with good marks earn sleepover etc. We have taken things away like television, video games, a special toy. We are consistent in this but what we are doing does not seem to work. Any ideas? I do not want his teacher to form a negative opinion of him before the first month of school is even over.

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GREAT NEWS!

We just had our first parent/teacher conference today and it went really well. J has been able to move back to a group setting and participate on carpet again. He is still struggling with being quiet/shouting out answers but he has really improved. He has earned back all his privileges at home and at school, I am sooo proud of him.

Maybe, we finally had a break through when he did not get any TV, video games, play dates, for almost a month. We are still in the process have him tested but this was definitely a breath of fresh air in the sails.

If your child's mother is bipolar, you very well may be dealing with it in your son, because in younger children, BP takes on a different appearance than in adults, and it is often initially mistaken as ADHD. There are some kids who have both, however, but the medication issues become far more complex and so you're right to try and find a child psychiatrist who can properly identify what's going on. If you haven't already, do look at www.bpkids.org

We want to go ahead with an evaluation on top of therapy and getting him more physically active. His mother is upset and is trying to fight us on this because she does not want him "labeled" because when she was diagnosed as bi-polar (we have considered this as a possibility) that people treated her differently.

We are currently looking for doctors and cp's to suit our needs.

What have you decided about requesting an evaluation? The data you would compile could help you understand the root cause of the problem. Once you know what is causing the behavior, you will be better able to tailor your response.

Behavioral therapy is a good start. It will be most effective if the approach is replicated during the school day and if other potential causes of the behavior are addressed.

Sorry it took me so long to respond, for some reason the website was not alerting me to new posts.

J is in first grade, and while he did not attend pre-school in kindergarten talking was a serious issue. He was eventually separated from his classmates unless it was a group activity. We have talked gone over this issue with him over and over.

His new teacher does seem to be rigid in her expectations for the class but with thirty children I guess you would have to be. While J does not interrupt people he does tend to talk when it is not appropriate. He does really try though and these past couple of weeks have been better.

My husband and I have decided that we are going to place him in social and behavioral therapy. We hope that coupled with strenuous after school activities like soccer that we will not have to go the medication route.

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