Does my son need help with his problem focusing on the task at hand?

well i really had a problem with things growing up my mom first thing wanted to say wow this child does not react to things like i as a 25 yr old woman would do forgetting that i was still really young and was affraid i had somthing wrong most parents want there child to be great and there kids to be at a level you as a mom has worked up in your head and there not ..
i was going to counseling and even got admited to wyandotte hospital for then becoming rebalious to my mom for picking at me with saying i wasnt paying attention and i was hyper i realized that young my mom was digging to deep. wheni went to this hospital i told them how aggrevated i had became at taking meds since i was 3 for ADHD and was now 13 for somthing i now in time grew out of i have a 5 yr old who is very hyper and dont listen but as a mom its up to me to teach my daughter time outs and disapline in great ways for her crazyness like when i tell her somthing and she dont listen i go over to her hold her arm down and look her in the eyes she dont like it but i do then i say it again like go brush your teeth if she dont i then put her in time out with a timer i use for cooking set at 5 min and when she is in time out she is in one place in a chair were its perfect for me to try and talk to her . but plz practice diffrent routines have family meetings each person sit in a group talk about your day and what is bothering you and you will grow even if your a single mom or dad its perfect for freindship find what works for you dont let a 56789 or 10 year old show you as a mom or dad at an older age how things are done your kid only knows what he or she has been taught i look at it as it a child it all in how the parent is to the child and how the parent is not the child telling you how its going to go i also count to 3 and at three he or she gets a penalty and so forth have patience and keep at it you as a parent teaches practice makes perfect so do the same dont give up or in to meds your child dont need to hear he or she has problems its no diffrent letting them listen to badwords in a rap song you dont let them watch r rated movies so filter the nagatives out as well or your kid will or might be rebelious and diss like you in the end
i grown to realize my mother had the problems not me she was going through times were this was deffinatly somthing that added to the bunch get controll now or you wont at all

Haucoin, has your older son ever been evaluated by a professional? It's one thing to be uncertain about a kindergartener or 1st grader's maturity, but an older child who consistently struggles with issues should really be taken seriously. It's well known that attentional issues seem to have familial tendancies, and the fact you've got another child with a diagnosis makes it more likely that professional intervention would be good to seek. You might also want to join us in the Learning and Attention Difficulties Group at http:community.greatschools.net/groups/11554

(P.S. If you can, please try not to use all capital letters when you post...it's seen as "SHOUTING")

I FEEL LIKE YOU ARE WRITING ABOUT MY FAMILY. MY
7 YEAR OLD IS ADHD AND MY 13 YEAR OLD DOES EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT WITH YOUR SON. I BELIEVE IT IS BECAUSE I GET UPSET AND SCREAM AND HOLLER AT HIM. I AM AT A LOSS AS WELL, BECAUSE MY SON WILL BE STARTING HIGH SCHOOL NEXT YEAR AND I'M WORRIED. MY SON IS SMART,BUT I REALIZE WHAT HAPPENS AT HOME HAS A LOT TO DO WITH HOW THEY DEAL WITH THINGS OUTSIDE OF HOME. SO I THINK THE REAL QUESTION IS HOW DO I CHANGE WHAT I'M DOING TO GET HIM TO LISTEN TO ME AND TO SPEAK WHAT HE IS FEELING.

Wow, I'm so interested in checking out their website. I feel like there are possible answers now and of course possible solutions. Thank you so much for sharing your very personal experience.