What do you do when a teen stands up to their bully and it get worse?

As my aunt was out of town, when daughter was being bullied and was talked in to confronting her bully at her home, well she did. This next part is going to make you boil. As she confronted her bully they began fighting the mother of the bully began recording it on her video camera and the bully wore large rings to case more damage. On the video the mother of the bully is heard on the video saying "That's what you get". After the fight the video is sent to everyone's phone at school including my cousin who went to go to the police to report the incident, the police did nothing because she went to the bullies property and consented the fight. Now what do about the bully and the mother who condone the fight, She can't go back to school, because she scared they will never leave her alone. please help

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JulieAnn, unfortunately the police were right. There is nothing legally that can be done about the fight. She went to the bully's property and it was a consentual fight. The fact that she came out worse doesn't mean she can sue for damages. The school also has no liability due to the fact the fight took place off of school property. They can only be held accountable for the lack or responsibility for the situation that had been occuring in school. Good luck again onestrongwoman. I hope it has ironed out by now.

You sue for damages, it is a civil case. But you need a copy of the tape. Sue that parent, make her have to answer to a judge on why she provoked it. Also, you need to address the principle of the school. If she felt safe at school, she probly wouldn't went over their to solve it herself. The school has to answer to that.
Good Luck.

Bullying is no longer as ignored as it use to be. We recognize that tragic events occur when children and young adults are bullied. If the child attends the same school as your child, you should immediately notify your child's teacher, the school counselor, and the principal/Chief School Administrator (CSA) about the issues, particularly if it is on-going. Solicit their support to expeditiously stopping any further harassment. The school more than likely have strict policies against bullying. Checkout the Parent's section on the website "http://www.echildcareservices.com" It has a section dedicated to "Bullying" sponsored by the government. If the two children do not attend the same school, then try to locate where the child lives and have a discussion with the child's parent's. I had this same situation and it actually took a few attempts with the last attempt being a threat to involve the police. Actually I told them that I had already contacted the police and was directed to file a formal "Complaint" against the child. This appeared to have worked as there were no other incidents. Lastly, if all else fails, then filing a formal Complaint or seeking an Order of Protection may be the final alternatives. I also agree with the other comments regarding the self-defensive school, however, as your child begins to learn, they are still going to get hurt trying to defend themselves before they are well trained in the arts. The best and expeditious way to resolve this issue is as stated above.

If you can't put your child in another school,then you need to help your child.First teach her how to defend herself,then you need to talk to the principal,staff,and each of your childs teachers so they can look out for her.then put the school insurance on your child it don't cost that much for the school year.Go downtown to your courthouse and fill out the papers that this bully has to stay away from your child,then take the papers to the school and give them to the principal,and I betcha something will be done about this bully.But you have to make sure you keep your daughter under control too,and she don't start bothering the bully,and stay away from the bully house,she can find some other friends to hang out with.If you love your child and don't won't her hurt I know you will do all in your power to see that your child is safe in school and any other place.

First of all, I applaude you for going to the police. Since they have been unresponsive, I would contact the school. The guidance counselors and administrators ALL are supposed to have special training in helping diffuse these situations. Next, I would contact the local district attorney. A minor CAN NOT enter into any binding agreement, and the other "mother's" actions are criminal!
If all else fails....CONTACT your local MEDIA! All big station affiliates have "problem solvers" or something similar. With the media, I would stress how the police were unwilling to help PROTECT A CHILD.

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