Triple whammy!! Divorce, new state, new school?????

i like the part about not too much!!! stay strong. keep your faith and keep in touch with us as much as you want. we all need support lines. this has been great for me. blessings

I wish you much blessings in starting a new life as a single mom. Just try not to talk bad about their father too much because he is a part of them and they are a part of him. We are moving back to MD simply because of friends and family support and better job market. We moved to TX to make a better life for our family and it has not gone good financially.

Change is never easy and I can relate to you because I am going through the same thing - divorce, new state, new school. Your kids are young and younger children tend to adapt better to change than older children. I have a 20 year old who is a special needs student and her father is everything to her. My other daughter is 13 and she is about to start grade 9. I know the change is going to be hard on both of them as the oldest lives and breaths her dad and the younger one is crying because she misses all her friends, but I let them know that it is also hard on me but together we can and will get over this. It maybe a bit harder to explain change to younger children but with love, support and understanding I believe your family will get through the adjustments. I also discuss with my kids what I am doing each step of the way and try to involve them as much as possible in the moving process. I look up fun and exciting things about where we are going and relate as much to them as possible. I also try to show them the best way I can that change is good as it opens many doors for adventure and learning, and I let them know what is happening each time I get over another hurdle on our road to our new life. I will be moving from Georgia to New Mexico where I have no family or friends, but it is where I have always wanted to retire and even though I have almost 20 years left before retiring I felt that now was a good time as any to make the move. I am hoping New Mexico will grow on my girls and I also know I will be wiping a few tears as the days go by, but I am prepared to be strong for all of us. I wish you and your kids all the luck with your moving process and I know that with God's help, a positive mind and the support of your family you will adjust and everything will be GREAT eventually. Look forward with hope and anticipation to a new life, think of it as an adventure and day by day the joy will come.

I hope you and your ex can make it work for your kids. I have made it known to my ex that just because we could not make it as a couple, his friendship and communicating with the kids was more important. It took some time, and my kids didn't really talk to him until they were older, but now my kids have a nice relationship with him via phone, IM and webcam. My ex still makes me laugh, so I make sure they only know the best about their dad. If they do ask about anything else, I just explain in terms not demeaning to my ex that things just didn't work out, but that we are still friends. Things may have happened that were unbearable at the time, but it's in the past, and the kids' relationship to having two parents in their lives is more important - with limits.