What can I do about my son's behavior?

Anonymous, At one time I thought your solution to my son's behavior was the answer. But it didn't work and can do more harm than good. I got a call from my son's teacher yesterday stating that he "was making poor choices" she put him on the phone to confess that he's been talking, jumping around, and disrupting the class. I told him he'd be grounded for a third weekend in a row. When I explained to his teacher the consequences I've been giving him she suggested we use a more positive approach, such as reward for good behavior. We're going to try this because we've done all the negative consequences and they're not working.

Thanks for your input. I know they can be bullied in the primary grades and I have been on top of it. At the beginning of the year I noticed it and my 5th grader told me about it. I went straight to the principal. The bullies were a few kids here and there and they are no longer at the school. The school offered my son a state reading resource program and he's done great in that. I also have to sit with him and work with him on his homework. I'm so glad to know of other parents who really care about there kids education through this website. It is so important. And like I said before were only at this school for the year, which is over in a month. We're moving to a better area and a much better school.

I had problems with Shane not wanting to participate in class or have anything else to do with school as a whole. Turned out there were 2 things going on. 1 is that he was being bullied (yes, even in 1st and 2nd grades) and second was he was becoming frustrated cause he didn't "get"the work and was giving up. In my state, we have what's called a 504 program which will guarantee he get extra help even if it means someone sitting with him thru the entire day. I would talk to your guidance counselor and really press to find out what the school system can do to hep you. a lot of the times, I noticed the school isn't very forthcoming as far as offering the extra stuff so you have to really go get it. I'm sorry about the former post. It was wrong of me to assume that your child was older. I"m stuck in 9 year old land and 8 month old land at my house. :) I'll say a prayer for your son to. Turned out Shane has a case of ADD and we just have to be with him all the time at home to guide him and have a great schedule written down for him to follow. If you want to talk... opr49@aol.com
Lori

He's in second grade at Scandia Elementary in Fairfield California. He went to Kindergarten and 1st grade at Crestview Elementary in Lompoc, CA.