repeating the 6th grade

bas,

You stated you and your wife had a bad divorce. If this is something that has occurred recently, and you feel your son has hostile feelings, maybe another idea would be to consider counseling for him. Even a school counselor might help if you all feel comfortable wit your district. It could be that some of his distractability is stemming from feelings of the divorce and needs someone else to talk with.

I hope I didn't step on your toes as most things I say on this site are none too popular.

Simply food for thought and another possibilty to try.

You are dead on in my opinion. Social skills seems to be the consensus. I am hopeful his mother will also understand this and move comfortably forward. She and I had a bad divorce unfortunately for our children and I think my son has suffered more than normal due to the hostility... will look for more thoughts and ideas thank you

I can't justify the Honor Roll part that's the issue for me. He is bright but immature and the kids a year older than him have whipped his ... verbally because they are more socially advanced. Basically picking on the weak one male human nature or at least at this school in the 6th grade..His mother thinks he has ADHD i think it's a matter of being responsible for his actions and suffering consequences of which his mother DOESN'T UNDERSTAND. Unfortunately for Jason he is with his mother 70% of the time so when with me he struggles with the discipline i represent.Social skills would be the better route to take in my opinion. Holding him back would hurt his pride more than anything as well as his psyche. I am torn but getting a better understanding of the options. Thanks for responding..

thank you for responding... His mother and I went thru a nasty separation/divorce that dragged out too long (over 5+ years) basically half Jason's life!! He struggles with letting things go. His mother thinks he has ADHD i don't. I think he hasn't learned about consequences for his actions (being with his mother 70% of the time has attributed to this...) I don't believe holding him back makes sense but after 90 minutes with his teachers, one thing is certain, they all agree he can handle the work... they have suggested study skills as well and possibly outreach programs too. His mother and I get along better but don't see Jason the same way. I agreed to explore the holding back part. Athletically and for internal confidence this would be great for him. Intellectually a nightmare... for me thank you for the comments