Is anyone out there fed up with getting no where when it comes to school bulling

My sons K class had alot of bullies including girls. The teacher seemed to wear rose colored glasses, as if she didn't see what was going on. I started staying more & more. One particular boy terrorized the whole class. He would throw books, chairs, crayons, markers & etc. He would hit the kids in the face, stomach, back, you name it, & thought it was funny. Of course the teacher gave him time out or no recess. He was use to all his restrictions. I talked to the teacher, she said that everything is being done. I talked to the VP twice, she said that he is being tested & they can't kick him out of the class. The next answer she said is to tell all the kids to beat his *** all together, maybe that's what he needed. His parents were afraid of him, because he beat his siblings at home the same way. I talked to the Principal once, she said he's being tested & she think he was ADHD. Ok, now it was May. My hubby & I told our son if he hit you, hit him back. My hubby taught our son how to bloody a nose. Well, our son did, & he never messed w/our son again. The little boy tried to be my sons BF. My son in turn tried to teach him to be nice to his classmates & teacher. The boy wanted my son to teach him how to bloody a nose. Our son never did. He started to be more nicer @ the end of school year.

We moved to a new school this past year and I have had nothing but problems with this particular subject. My son is in the 7th grade and had never been in a fight before he came here. He was attacked from behind and put in a choke hold by a boy 2 years his elder while waiting for the coaches to get to their class, mind you this was 15 minutes before class started so where were they? Oh ALL teachers were in a meeting so there was NO supervision anywhere in the school that morning. My son fought out of the choke hold and was suspended. This after a much larger boy had started threatening and harrassing him on a daily basis, and after 3 failed attempts with the school to have it resolved we finally got it resolved with the boys parents. Later in the year my son and another young man were then threatened that they would be shot with a 9 mm because they chose to quit talking to this young man when he started doing drugs. When my son and the other boy went to the principle they were all told it was heresay and that if he heard about it again he would suspend them all. 3 days later the boy did in fact attack my son. My son was so fearful and anxiety ridden that he went from a boy who once loved school to one skipping and physically making himself ill to avoid the terror, which in turn resulted in him failing. Of the times he would get up and leave the school I was only contacted ONCE. It took me having to involve the police on the last incident to get anything done about the schools lack of concern for my sons well being.

It is against the law period to be bullied or assaulted in school Every incident is suppose to be immediately reported to the superintendent as well as the police. My recommendation, when YOUR child's school doesn't take the necessary and legal steps they should take in these instances, CALL THE POLICE. File incident reports on the school and the offender, EVERY TIME! That is what the TPD told me to do. When it comes to our children's safety it is vital that we as parents FORCE the schools to be held accountable at any cost.

This past year we had black eyes, punched in the stomach, scratches down the face, neck and back and called a retard on a daily basis.
I went, I heard, then said either this stops or I speak with an attorney, it has stopped! We have an assigned seat, we have a good driver, and no problems!

starcitymama and others,

You're right...much of the behavior you see comes from kids who come into schools not knowing what kind of behavior and character development is right. It's not always the parents' fault, however..there are dozens of factors.

But, regardless of WHY, the reality remains the same: the schools, the students, the teachers are suffering.

And, you are RIGHT that we have to hold the schools accountable. There have to be enough voices that say "this is enough!" before they will listen.

Schools will say they are handling it. After all, they are required by the Federal Government to have a "policy" in place. Swell. It's not working, is it?

I just came back from a conference where we were exhibiting and I was talking to several principals about the "anti-bullying" programs they had at the school. One principal went so far as to say "Anti-bullying? We have given up on our anti-bullying program. They don't work. We need something more that doesn't deal with the issue as an isolated thing." Which is why they were coming to inquire about us.

In other words, the principals recognize that they need to develop a culture that is in place ALL the time where this kind of behavior isn't tolerated, isn't supported, doesn't happen...because kids understand what they should and shouldn't do, and why it's in THEIR best interests to do it that way.

When you get the kids to understand, that's how you know you'll succeed.

How CAN a school say they can't afford to do anything about it? They can afford to pay their administrators and staff...they can't afford to make sure our kids are safe?