Supportive Advice Needed

in regards to Caslynh, I think it is really great that you are able to play such an intrical role in your childs education but I work full time and to be able to spend that amount of time tutoring my own child is almost impossible. I think this is where the school system comes in..... they need to be able to provide what is necessary for my child to learn. My son is going into 4th grade with a DRA of 20. This is a very good school system but they need to pay for one on one tutoring in order to get him where he needs to be......

I just realized I got off subject.... this is easy to do when you are feeling so passionate about your children......

Generally the only reason one would share info about a child's learning issues is to keep them from being misunderstood. E,g, kids with adhd need to move or fidget to STAY attentive, it is not an insult to the person they are supposed to be paying attention too, it is their way of paying attention. Or a child playing sports who has APD would have a hard time understanding directions from a coach during a noisy game. etc..

Many of us have faced these circumstances. I am sorry if I did not understand the import of you initial post. Persons can be insensitive for many reasons. It can be frustrating to deal with individuals that make inappropriate comments or pry into you family's personal business. I have learned to only share information regarding my child’s dyslexia when necessary and only with person’s who are supportive and helpful. It is not necessary to share with others the fact that your daughter has dyslexia. If that option works for you, I would certainly not hesitate to use it.

In addition, I have found that prior to making that decision, I had shared information with some in my family who were not supportive, understanding, or held different views regarding our choices. When these persons choose to make comments or inquire about my daughter’s dyslexia, or how we have chosen to deal with it -- sometimes I just ignore the comments, do not engage the person further on this topic, and just change the subject. At times, when I felt it necessary I have set the record straight and let them know that they really don’t know the facts about dyslexia and are not speaking from and informed position and that as her parents we are informed and are meeting her at her needs and let them know she is doing great. There have been situations when I have simply stated something positive about my daughter's talents and changed the subject. In some instances, I felt it important to educate some – and shared factual information that changed their perspective.

Use what works for you and your family. It sounds as if you have already come up with some viable options.

Best Wishes.

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Good attitude, because you know what? It really isn't anybody's business, ultimately. So if telling people brings unwanted opinions and advice, then just go forth and prosper! It's not that it's a secret, it is just not relevant to that many conversations. Nor is your child's latest blood pressure reading, although hopefully that is also excellent!