Need advice plz

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Hello, I'm new to this group. In a nutshell, my oldest who's finishing first grade was diagnosed with having Asperger's Syndrome when he was in Kindergarten. His kindergarten year we had IEP meetings once a month. We were given the heads up that he might be in a special class to better help him with his AS. This year (first grade) I feel so lefted out. His teacher now says he's doing fine and that she see no need for me to be concerned. I have been advised not to hang around due to the attachment issues. Although I feel lefted out, I really like this teacher for giving him a chance and work with him.

My issue...

He wanders. I live right behind the school and I see it. He'll come up with some reason to leave class to go to the office and then takes detours around campus. Usually and often, he leaves to playground area when out at recess. Sometimes he goes to the otherside of the campus to the bike area. I tell him to get back with his class but he doesn't understand the dangers that could happen if he wanders and if no one knows where he is. It scares me. He's 7 but maturity wise, it's like me sending my 3 year old to school...unattended. I've gotten after the school but nothing comes from it. I fear leaving my home when he's at school just incase something does happen to him and I don't catch it. He is mainstreamed and academically he's right on target .

He is my oldest and I do have a son at the school finishing kindergarten and my daughter will be going to that school this August for kindergarten. I watch all of y children like a hawk and see no reason why y younger 2 wouldn't do well at this school. This isn't a bad school just not right for my oldest with a special need. I'm thinking about charter schooling him but I don't know of any or where to find them. Please help. I need to know he's safe when he's at school.

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DZAmama:
I'm the leader of the Autism and Asperger's Syndrome group, and I apologize for not seeing your post here earlier.

I have a 12 year-old son with Asperger's Syndrome. He was diagnosed with Asperger's just before Kindergarten.

Regarding your safety issue, you should have written in your son's IEP that he should have a one-on-one with him while he's in school. Wandering is a safety issue that the school MUST address. The 1-on-1 will also be able to assist your son in the classroom, by keeping him focused (if this is an issue for him). The aide can also stay with him on the playground during recess and lunch, to help him socialize with other children.

Please do join the Autism and Asperger's Group, and feel free to send me a private message as well. I'm more than happy to give you advice and lend a listening ear when you need one.

Hi DZAmama,

Did you know we have an group here for Autism and Asperger's Syndrome families? I hope you'll consider joining. Here's the link so you can check it out: community.greatschools.net/groups/18940

I do agree it's a safety issue. This year (he's only been in school for a week and a half) I haven't seen him out and about like I did last year. I did mention to his new teacher that he tends to wander and am in the process of going into details about it. I am going to the district if I see him unsupervised at all.
Thank you so very much! It's such a releif to hear that it's not just me being over protective!

I haven't had the specific issue you're having, but this is about the safety of your son. See if the pricipal is willing to do anything. If not, as much as you may not want to, you may have to go up the ladder above the school. I had to and finally got some results.

I believe this is a safety issue. Perhaps you can offer a solution to the teacher/school. It is easy enough to send another child with your son. It might not be needed in this case, but my friend's son had an aide follow him around in school to make sure he stayed focused on his tasks. I don't blame you for being worried about your son. You need to push for something to change.

As for charter schools, these are considered public schools, so you can call your school district and ask which charter schools are in your area.

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