Options needed for special needs children!

Please keep fighting for your child, the schools just see him as a diagnosis. Suggestion, see if you can sit him in the back of the room with no one around for 4 to 5 feet away starting off with you there then slowly moving yourself out of the room. JUST DO NOT LET THE SCHOOL TELL YOU TO GIVE UP OR YOUR CHILD IS TO DIFFICULT TO HANDLE IN SCHOOL

My recommendation is that you do everything in your power to keep him home. I placed a child in Behavior Modification School/residential. I was dissappointed in the level of training of the staff.

When our children have difficulties, it is easy to become fearful, overreact to their plight. Since bringing my child home (12/11/05), I have spent a great deal of time finding solutions. One of the best I have found is The Optimistic Child, www.amazon.com/Optimistic-Child-Safeguard-Depression-Resilience/dp/0060977094 and Choice Theory, www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_b/104-6767965-5085503?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=Choice+Theory&x=13&y=24

The most important lesson I have learned surprisingly is about myself. How do I react or respond to my child's situation? Does it work? What can I do that will create the change?

Holding our children capable to become problemsolvers becomes the key in their development. How they will handle their life is tied directly to the amount of lifeskills they employ.

Here is another great resource in new ways of living www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/06/overcoming-depression/

What is your child's vision? How can you promote his qualities? This is what I did when faced with a similar situtation.

Short background, my child was 3 when the anger problems began. Now, 13 she is able to attend public school, is on track in her studies, all beligerence, physical acting out is the past.

Alot of work, perseverance, believing in your child, most importantly believing in yourself. Learning new effective parenting, stop beating yourself up. Life happens, NOW WHAT!?

Be strong, many parents are walking your path, many are finding sucess, don't let fear and dissappointment interfer with the best time in your life.

First hugs for you. It is very depressing to see your kid not able to do its best because he is not offered the best environment for him.

There are probably alternative schools around where you live that are adapted to your child, but the difficulties are to find them depending where you live, to get your son accepted, which may require another evaluation if his latest one is not recent, and to get the school district to PAY for it.

The other obvious solution, if you can afford it, is homeschooling.

I am sorry not to be able to help you more, but you should probably go to community.greatschools.net/groups/11554 (Learning Difficulties and ADHD group). There are very knowledgeable people there that may be able to help you.