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As my daughter moves into junior high, I have concerns.  She speaks well and has a very large vocabulary.  We are a reading household, and there are a lot of times where my daughter will crack jokes that aren't so easily understood (they can't take that kind of 'pun'ishment, I guess).  She feels she has a harder time relating to people who are her age and seems more comfortable carrying on conversations with our family's adult friends than with her schoolmates.  Is this a common problem among gifted children, difficulty in relating to one's peers? 

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healthy11
healthy11 October 7, 2009
Re: social challenges
To echo the other posters, and speaking from personal experience, I do believe gifted students, especially adolecent girls, often find their peers to be less mature, and are less apt to have a large quantity of friends, preferring one or two quality friends instead.
I invite you to join giftedonlineconferences.ning.com/ which is another forum focused on gifted topics.
TeacherParent
TeacherParent October 5, 2009
Re: social challenges
The short answer is yes, it can be. If your daughter has the wonderfully remarkable abilities of a gifted student and is an avid reader to boot - she may not always find it easy to speak to her middle school classmates who may not share her love of reading or her abilities.
Ideally, there would be other gifted children or avid readers in her school and you may want to look around a bit to see if there are. If not in school, then it would be the next best thing to find her some reading friends outside of school. Check out a 'hoagies' website easily found on google for advice and connections with the gifted child community.

Good luck.
MagnetMom
MagnetMom August 26, 2009
Re: social challenges
It's the bane of the gifted and culturally aware kids. My son competes in sport with a whole group of kids, and the one girl who's very bright (and homeschooled) and he could make references about just about anything that the rest of the teens would stand there slack jawed.

Encourage her to have some chronologically age-appropriate friends who can talk about boys and school and the like, but don't worry if she also craves the company of adults. You'll find quickly which of your friends don't mind her accompanying you, and which ones think of all kids as kids.

Many of our friends consider my son one of their friends too given his ability to carry on a conversation. It's often refreshing for other adults to see that some of the next generation are going to be able to contribute positively to their social security accounts.

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