Being teased for being to young for middleschool
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I'm the same mother of the 10year old that started middle school this year.
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We found our public school's gifted program less than "stimulating/challenging" and didn't want to test the kids to move ahead for this very reason. We put the kids in a charter school where kids stay with their peers, but are allowed to advance at their own pace. They can complete two years in a year. That way there are also no gaps in curriculum exposure. Charter school can be a bit iffy, but our school has a number of campuses though our campus is in its first year. Good luck. I know a mom who has a challenged child and a gifted child and says that the two ends of the spectrum present polar, but near equal challenges.
My son was the only 6th grader in an 8th grade math class. He was quickly labeled "the smart kid". He just laughed and worked on getting along at their level. Things worked quite well and once he went to high school, many of those kids were allies for him, particularly since they were upper classmen.
And yes, reinforce to your daughter that everyone in middle school gets teased or is unsure of themselves in some area. I have another son that shared moments of uncertainty and completely surprised me as he was bright, popular, student council, athlete, yada yada... but still expressed uncertainty. Just let her know it's normal to feel this way, be grateful for the "gift" she has that allows her to be there, and then be there for her to vent to.
And yes, reinforce to your daughter that everyone in middle school gets teased or is unsure of themselves in some area. I have another son that shared moments of uncertainty and completely surprised me as he was bright, popular, student council, athlete, yada yada... but still expressed uncertainty. Just let her know it's normal to feel this way, be grateful for the "gift" she has that allows her to be there, and then be there for her to vent to.
my daughter is in middle school in the 6th grade and she gets teased because she is taller then everyone.i think in middle school you get teased no matter your size are weight.i have found out that at middle school the kids seem to find something to pick on you about.i would tell your daughter to do what my 12 year old told me she does when they say this to her she said she ignores them,and she said they dont bother her anymore,when they found out she wasnt going to let it get to her they leave her alone now.
trmjem,
The one thing I know about middle school is that kids get teased for something no matter what they do or what they are. My daughter (who's only in second grade) is already the shortest girl in her class and among the four shortest in her grade. She's learned to take that and make "I'm tiny but mighty" her mantra. She says that at home and when no one's around so that the first time someone says she's short, she's gonna probably say, something along the lines of "Wow, is that why I can't reach the top shelf?"
I'm not suggesting your daughter get too flippant, because that will escalate things, but when they say "Hey how old are you?" or start with the "Baby, baby!" or ask if she should be playing with dolls or any of the stupid stuff, she come up with a very simple, short retort and get over it.
The fact is she's 10, and she looks younger than the rest, but my son was 10 turning 11 in sixth grade, and after a few months it was harder to notice the sixth graders anyway. When they come back from winter break, I bet it will get better, and by next year, she won't be the youngest or the smallest anymore.
This is one of those cases where it will get better if she can just wait it out.
Good luck, and keep us updated.
The one thing I know about middle school is that kids get teased for something no matter what they do or what they are. My daughter (who's only in second grade) is already the shortest girl in her class and among the four shortest in her grade. She's learned to take that and make "I'm tiny but mighty" her mantra. She says that at home and when no one's around so that the first time someone says she's short, she's gonna probably say, something along the lines of "Wow, is that why I can't reach the top shelf?"
I'm not suggesting your daughter get too flippant, because that will escalate things, but when they say "Hey how old are you?" or start with the "Baby, baby!" or ask if she should be playing with dolls or any of the stupid stuff, she come up with a very simple, short retort and get over it.
The fact is she's 10, and she looks younger than the rest, but my son was 10 turning 11 in sixth grade, and after a few months it was harder to notice the sixth graders anyway. When they come back from winter break, I bet it will get better, and by next year, she won't be the youngest or the smallest anymore.
This is one of those cases where it will get better if she can just wait it out.
Good luck, and keep us updated.
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