My daughter just turned 12 and has been in the same private school since shes
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I know it can be really troubling to see our children going down the wrong path. But it's not too late for your daughter!
I was once a teen with a severe attitude problem thanks to troubles at home.
My guess is that your daughter has been deeply affected by the separation of you and your ex. Like MSMomm said, now is the time to impose limits and expectations on your daughter.
Take away her cell phone until her homework is finished. Limit the amount of time she spends on the internet to one to two hours a day.
Do you monitor the websites that she visits? I'm concerned because you posted that she spends long amounts of time online on the weekends. If you aren't monitoring her websites, now is probably a good time to start.
You and your ex need to get on the same page and then sit down with your daughter and set some serious ground rules. Let her know she has a certain amount of time to turn her grades around or she goes to public school. I bet her teachers will work with her.
I too refused to go to councilling- well my parents made me anyway and I, like MSMomm said, would sit there and say nothing in protest. It's okay if she does that.
You are the parent. You make the rules. Stick to them!! You can do it!
I was once a teen with a severe attitude problem thanks to troubles at home.
My guess is that your daughter has been deeply affected by the separation of you and your ex. Like MSMomm said, now is the time to impose limits and expectations on your daughter.
Take away her cell phone until her homework is finished. Limit the amount of time she spends on the internet to one to two hours a day.
Do you monitor the websites that she visits? I'm concerned because you posted that she spends long amounts of time online on the weekends. If you aren't monitoring her websites, now is probably a good time to start.
You and your ex need to get on the same page and then sit down with your daughter and set some serious ground rules. Let her know she has a certain amount of time to turn her grades around or she goes to public school. I bet her teachers will work with her.
I too refused to go to councilling- well my parents made me anyway and I, like MSMomm said, would sit there and say nothing in protest. It's okay if she does that.
You are the parent. You make the rules. Stick to them!! You can do it!
lets be serious here this attaitude that your daughter has did not just magically appear at 12. I believe she has been doing whatever she wants since she was young with no true discipline for any wrong thing she's done. Give her tough love. Take away any and all privelledges including going to a private school she obviously dosen't understand that private school is a sacrifice that her parents made to give her a better life. Let me add bad attitude and school grades she is already hanging with the wrong crowd. Stop giving her things she dosen't deserve, telephone and computers no way. Private schooling no way. Even as far as the principle passing her to 7th grade she didn't earn it therefore she shouldn't have passed no way.
I would suggest you first take away her privileges (cell phone, internet usage). Be clear why you're taking these privileges away from her -- her grades are awful, she's disrespectful and her attitude is not acceptable.
Second, I would have some serious conversations with her regarding her attitude about herself, you, other family members, and her school. She doesn't make the rules about counseling, you do. Continue to take her to counseling anyway. You may find she just sits there without saying a word time after time; eventually, something will come out, besides "I don't want to come her anymore."
Third, if you can't afford the private school and you feel it's a waste of time, put her in the public school. I think if you follow the suggestions above, and BE CONSISTENT, your daughter will come around.
Second, I would have some serious conversations with her regarding her attitude about herself, you, other family members, and her school. She doesn't make the rules about counseling, you do. Continue to take her to counseling anyway. You may find she just sits there without saying a word time after time; eventually, something will come out, besides "I don't want to come her anymore."
Third, if you can't afford the private school and you feel it's a waste of time, put her in the public school. I think if you follow the suggestions above, and BE CONSISTENT, your daughter will come around.
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