I'm wondering why your daughter is having difficulty making friends with girls...I think it is very important especially in junior high school when kids are maturing and learning to adapt in more grown up situations. As for the boy friends...yes I do think it's possible to have a healthy and just a friendly relationship with someone from the opposite sex. I strongly suggest that if your daughter is having trouble making girl friends then you should find out what is really going on and try to find help for her...maybe start out by talking to her school guidance counselor.

I am in middle school and i know exactly how your daughter feels. I do the same things. Guys are much easier to talk to and dont start drama. I think she is using good judgmet because everytime I trust someone(usually girls) I get stabbed in the back. Trust her unless these boys do something to make you not trust them.

Ahhh.....our children learn the same way we did when we were their age! My daughter goes through the same thing quite a bit. She's 12 and in 7th grade. Girls are catty at this age and really finding out what friendship is. My daughter has a lot of friends who are boys; I think it's ok. We monitor her texts and emails (that's our job as parents). Your daughter will develop friendships with girls when she finds the right group of them! Kids at this age do stab you in the back; usually without meaning to. I just always tell my daughter to never tell her friends anything (no matter how close they are) that she doesn't want the whole school to find out.

i agree msowder15,i had more guy friends too then girls.

I am guessing they still don't have the understanding of what true friends are and the value of a "friendship". As adults we have the understanding but I don't even see my daughter as having the full understanding yet and I have been told by professionals that it is normal but they will learn it as they get older and develop more. My daughter also gets along better with boys and some have asked her out but she says no way and luckily some have understood and they still play ball together and play other games but yes she has lost some too. One boy has now began calling her a sister since he only has a brother so just remind your child you are there for them and remind them that as adults it can be just as tough and just keep teaching skills to help them develop.

I probably had more male friends that female also and their is nothing wrong with that. But I also had a few of really good girlfriends and I say a few because the girls were more likely to stab you in the back and were much more dramatic. When I was a teenager the girls my age were more advanced than me in a sexual way. One of my best guy friends gave me the name vvv valley village virgin. Most of the girls around here were really nasty having several partners and I was not like that and thought it was gross so I really seemed to get along much better with the guys and they respected me. I had about 3 really good girlfriends that were alot like me and they are still friends today.

I met friends in middle school that I've had for 30+ years. I think it is a huge mistake to have no girlfriends. It may be that the girls she wants to have as friends are not the best choices, but if she chose her friends more carefully she would end up with great long term friendships. Sometimes the most popular girls aren't really the nicest. Just watch the movie When Harry met Sally; generally boys want something different than girls!!!

I completely understand what your daughter is saying. When I was in school went through the same thing. I had 98% male friends, my best of the best were all guys. They didn't present the amount of drama that the girls did and we had a blast. Of the group of guy friends, there would be one or two that wanted more than friendship, and they would the leave me alone as a friend or otherwise. That actually helped me to see that they were not truly a friend for me afterwards. The male friends that I did have and keep are life long friends and after 20 years, we are still friends, their wives and kids now, with mine as well. I may not have learned all the girlie girl things that a group of females would have provided me, but genuine complements, natural curiosities (why do girls.... and when a guy says this...what does that mean???) were presented in easy and laughable terms, no jealousies, etc. At the same time, there were no sleepovers and crazy trips to the mall, which to date I still don't care for. But there were sporting events, concerts, parties, lots of fun from my memories without the drama that middle to high school girls can present. If your daughter is happy and the relationships themselves are good healthy ones, that's what's important. Have them over for dinner (that's what my mom did, she fed them and got to know them, nothing formal, just good old home cooking) and see what type of kids they are and make your guiding decision then. Good luck!