My son never had problems making friends his trouble was keeping the friends he made. When we would go on school trips or have friends over, his behavior was really pushing people away from him. Our son really struggled to listen to other children's ideas about fun and what games to play. For my son it always had to be his idea or it was a bad idea.

We are just now learning about some underlying issues concerning his behaviors but the mantra was always the same. My husband and I kept telling our son that listening to other peoples ideas about fun was important and that if he wanted other boys to play with him it couldn't be his ideas every time.

When my son talks about being 'bored' because he doesn't have any friends, we remind him that this time will pass and he has other activities going on in his life. Friends will come when he is 'ready'. We teach him to focus on what is important (academics, extra-curricular activities,family,etc) and this usually satisfies him. We are a private family and do not entertain much; we focus on our children so I am sure he does feel lonely or 'bored' sometimes, but these are far and few between. We remind him when he works for and accomplishes what he needs to be successful, he will be able to choose his friends as he sees. Right now he is encouraged to focus on his priorities and what his future holds for him. Friends come and go; his future is what he will make it. That being said, he is very popular in school and has many 'acquaintances' he associates with during school hours and after school activities. We just choose to limit his freetime at his age and keep him next to us until we feel comfortable. We invite kids from school to our home, he is not permitted to go to anyone elses home, but this is what works for us. It seems to work for our son very well, he doesn't question our rules and often understands why he doesn't have 'friends' at this point in his life.

i am a mother of 3 children. We just moved back to Andover,ma. My oldest goesto kindergarten. My daughter has never had a problem making new freinds. She is one popular girl. For me I am looking for new friends. So if you are looking to make a new friend lets chat.

I just moved to the states one month ago, i have one child , he is joining the 2nd grade.
Today was the second day of school, the boy is very confused, he is telling me that he didnt have any kind of fun at school cause he still doesnt have any friends and whoever he talks to , the kids they dont answer him, even when he asks them to play soccer with them they refuse, i kept on talking to him that u dont have to worry and that this is the case always when some body is new at school cause u are a stranger to them but he is very anxious and feeling bad.
I dont know how to confort him i kept on talking to him but i he has the feeling that n body likes him at school i dont know why

bianca92, You should always feel that it's okay to talk to your son's teacher about what's going on with him. If she knows that he's having anxiety about coming to school it will give her insight into his behavior throughout the day.

I dont think you are taking it too far. I would do whatever made my child more comfortable and talking to his teacher is a good place to start just to let him/her know the way he is feeling. I am sure he will adjust it just takes time.

Today my first greadear was crying and screaming that he did not want to go to school cuase he hade no freands.Its a new school for him so im hoping that its juset does first days. He has allways been outgoing never hade i problem making new frieands i guess that evear kid has to go through that the first days.Im thinking of talking whith the techear about it so my child is more coumfrtble in school .I dont know if im taking it to far by me going up to the techear?

Thanks I know I should take that into consideration too.

Your not judging don't worry it happens to me at one time, I tend to see the parents before I see the child. Although not all the times it's the same, not because a parent is alcholic, the child will be the same, sometimse kids dislike what their parents are doing or do.

Oh yes this year my third grader is in a new school and she is all of the sudden a shy girl. She has always been out going and made friends pretty easy. Granted this is only the third week of school but she doesn't seem interested in approaching the girls and making an effort to make friends with them.She has made friends with two of the girls which is fine but one is pretty hyper and her mom is kinda freaky. I know I shouldnt judge the child by her parent, but I just dont understand why she wont make friends with anyone else. So I guess I am more worried about it than she is! HELP

Yes, I believe every kid one time or the other really worries about making friends.

My kids are starting at a new school this fall, and are a bit worried. Still, they know that they are pretty good at making friends. I am trying to sound reassuring, while asking them what they know about making friends. They usually have good advice!

Still, making friends is tricky, not simple, and it require patience. Being available after school for fun activities is my game plan for the first few weeks.

Yes, my daughter was so worried about amking new friends. We just moved here from NY and she still misses her friends and teacher from NY. She is always asking me if she will have any friends at her new school. I constantly encourage her by telling her she has to learn to make new friends. She should always be kind to others and keep smiling.

My daughter was *intensely* shy for about a year and a half. She wouldn't look at anyone other than her father, grandparents, and me. Speaking to anyone else was completely out of the question. We tried soccer, but she didn't like the idea of sweating (she was 3 and all girl). Dance helped a little bit, but she was still pretty shy. Cheerleading is the best thing we have ever done for her. I think finding something she really enjoyed that allowed her to interact with others really helped. Since she knew she had to listen to her coach during practice, there wasn't any pressure to talk to the other girls. When she was ready to talk later in the year, she started and never stopped. She now makes friends easily on the playground. She's starting a new preschool this year and is excited about all of the new friends she'll get to meet. This is such a change from last year that I can hardly believe she is the same child!