tadvice about talking to parents

I recently had to go and talk to another mom about some conflict that had been going on with her daughter and mine and one other little girl. I thought that would be the right thing to do , you know talk woman to woman. However she got mad at me for trying to talk it out , I ended up asking her if she could just asked her daughter to no longer talk to mine or the other little girl.I didnt raise my voice didnt curse , I thought I was well mannered and I stopped and listen to what she had to say .She said the fight between the girls goes ways. I told her I agree , also told her I had already gotten on to mine and gave my kid a big speech about treating others how you wanna be treated.She said she would talk to hers also , you keep the peace .See this has been going on since 1st day of school so I did wait 5 days before I said anything thinking the girls would solve this by themselves..well did happen so this why I took uopn myself...well later that night she had made a few angry calls saying I said stuff I didnt say !! I dont wanna go sdown to her level I thought we were all adults , I

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There are a lot of parents who refuse to believe that their precious children can do anything wrong. They get extremely defensive. In your case, they are extremely childish themselves if they are making prank calls. It's no wonder the child behaves the way she does, and treats other children badly!

taakjam, I think that what you wrote on this comment board would be close to a perfect thing to write in a letter, explaining how you had good intentions and you didn't mean any harm, and now people are all mad at you. and your sorry for stepping in at all.
Good luck to you dear.

Well I am a parent who cares , very active with the school .I know alot of the parents all have great kids.I had good intentions , but I learned my lesson.I understand that sometimes they need to work it out themselves.Thanks for the advice !

The parents get defensive and stick up for their kid and usually act worse than the kids . I wouldn't't doubt it if they encouraged the kids conflict. Parents need to stay out ,but informed. My opinion. If there's violence, then parents, Principle, and no kids.

There are so many variables with kids and bully's its the roughest time in life. Kids are cruel and act like a pack of wolves. Someone was right when they said the parents usually don't care. I think if the two kids were in a closed meeting with just the principle to resolve it, would be more affective than getting parents involved. Some psychology has to play a role.

Well I let it all go for the 1st week of school before i said anything..I thought I was doing the right think by talking to the parents ..but I didnt know it would cause soooo much drama..I really thought I did the right thing I didnt want to have a parent meeting cause I thought that would be worse you know making the other parents upset ..I was just trying to stick up for my daughter..I HAD GOOD INTENTIONS...But I learned my lesson ...cause the parent was relly upset..I have recieved lots of prank calls ..asking me "who will your daughter play with now ..calling me a snitch...ai fifnt mean any harm ..but i learn has I go I dont have a book telling me ow to handle this kind of problem..thanks for the advise..I never raised my voice or cursed or called anyone out of thier name ..I really tried to do the rightthing ...but I guess I was wrong..thanks again

WELL I WOULD HAVE TRIED TO LET THE TEACHER KNOW FIRST THEN SEE IF ANYTHING COULD BE RESOLVED FIRST,THEN IF IT GOT WORSE THEN U SHOULD HAVE ASKED IF THERE COULD BE A PARENT MEETING. SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO TAKE STEPS BEFORE TRYING TO TALK TO THE PARENTS OURSELVES,THERE ARE PARENTS THAT REALLY DON'T CARE.

I know I messed up on a few words but hopefully everyone can understand most of the story my ? is did I do the wrong thing by talking to the mom ? I thought I did the right thing sticking up for my kids and talking with the parent so we could reslove this please give advice.....

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